Someone who is 18 years old (a senior) and is dating someone who is 14 years old (a freshman) is gross and pretty much illegal if the relationship were to ever get physical.
They're both kids, at 18 you don't magically turn into an adult, especially not when you're still in high school; that said they shouldn't have sex cause that's damn young and yes illegal, but if they both actually like each other and want to date, so what? As long as the 18 year old isn't trying to manipulate the younger one's emotions or just fuck her.
But let's face it...a lot of 14 year-olds are gonna have sex anyways, whether with someone old or someone their age, and that I don't agree with, they should wait.
18 is *legally* an adult; 14 is *legally* a minor. An 18 year old having sex with a 14 year old is STATUTORY RAPE. Period. If a 14 year old wants to have sex, then they should have sex with someone under 18. If an 18 year old wants to have sex, then they should have sex with someone older than 18. No, it may not be illegal for an 18 year old to date a 14 year old, but I'm sure neither one of their parents are going to be happy about it...
But I agreed with you on all that....I was talking mentality not legality, and preferably dating not sex. Lots of things are legal that people think are wrong and lots of things are illegal that people don't think are wrong, I'm just saying the psychology of an 18 year old and 14 year old aren't different enough to automatically be the same as pedophilia.
You're right, age doesn't necessarily affect your mentality. But usually most people have matured at least to some degree from the time they start high school to the time they graduate- hell, I know I did. Four years is a long time. I beg to differ on your last point. I remember during my last year of high school most of the seniors despised the freshman and thought 90% of them were immature children. I would say a majority of the time an 18 year old menality is quiet different than a 14 year old mentality- not always, but usually. No, it's certainly not comparable to pedophilia, but it's still pretty extreme in my opinion.
Sure but if an 18 year old chooses to date a 14 year old it means they like each other meaning one is either more mature or less mature than they should be, if one viewed the other as an immature child they wouldn't want to date unless it IS a pedophilia thing on the part of the older one in which case no that would be wrong. Therefore sometimes not always, agreement, yay and <end>
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· 9 years ago
I don't see what is SO wrong, I mean if they aren't physical and love each other it should be fine. I once knew this old lady who married someone 11 years older than her and they were married for over 20 years.
Other than legal or not, it's where the level of maturity is involves.
Its not the same being with someone, I don't know, 8 years older at 14, than being with someone 8 years older at 27
When I was 15, one of my friends twin sisters was dating a 20 year old who went to her cross fit gym. It was physical too. My friend was so pissed about it.
I honestly think that it's okay as long as they don't get physical, considering that's illegal. When I was fourteen, I dated an eighteen year old and it got physical and we got into a lot of trouble because of that. However, if they really do like each other, I don't see a problem unless they do get physical.
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· 9 years ago
You go through a lot in those four years, it's the mentality difference that I think is weird. That's why 25 and 29 isn't a big deal.
i knew a guy (he was a senior and i was a junior) who was insanely tall, over 6 foot, and was dating this short freshman (which by the way is way shorter than me and i barely reach 5'2.
And i found it really really weird everytime they went out together because she looks like his kid. #justsharin
But let's face it...a lot of 14 year-olds are gonna have sex anyways, whether with someone old or someone their age, and that I don't agree with, they should wait.
Its not the same being with someone, I don't know, 8 years older at 14, than being with someone 8 years older at 27
And i found it really really weird everytime they went out together because she looks like his kid. #justsharin