Double standards

unless you're in a big city busing is not very efficient so the odds of a man being on the bus also being a potential candidate for "man who makes enough income to properly supplement child rearing" low. doesnt preclude all bus riders, but its just a probability to be aware of.

In my country public transportation is really efficient and most people use so right now I'm like " da fuq is going on"

in my city i had to take the bus for a couple weeks between my car breaking down and me accepting it was permanent and not fixable and buying a new one, and it took about 2.5 hours to get work, plus a 30 minute walk to the main road to get to the bus (if no one from my neighborhood picked me up and took me the stop - i do wear a trust inspiring uniform so this happened enough), and the buses stopped before my shift ended so i had to bother coworkers for rides. so perhaps my impression of people who take buses is a bit tainted because you gotta be pretty broke to be doing that nonsense.

I don't know where you live, but in London public transport isn't that bad. In central London its a lot easier to take the bus or tube rather than driving.

Well public transport is not as efficient as in London everywhere

It's not always efficient. There are loads of strikes but it works most of the time.

of course its better there, any city where you can just say the name of the name of the city to people from any country without them going "wheres that?" is likely to have good public transport, its apples to oranges. it's just like while here in Ft Myers i am reluctant to date a man without a car (aka, a "dependent") if i were say, in new york city, I'd be wary of the wasteful attitude of a man paying to store a car there. i guess my point is, perspective and location matter before judging the buss rider or the girl judging the buss rider.

deviledapple - if she expects a man to take care of her children, and those children are not his, she's a gold digger.

uhhh i feel like it was pretty obvious i was referring to the notion of a dating couple creating their own kids, but still, most good men, in a relationship, take care of existing kids as if they were their own children as well, but as i feel was implied throughout my posts, both people ought to be doing things to care for all children. but good job trying to create an argument out of thin air? any household consisting of two adults and minors, it is up to the adults to everything in their power to care for the minors, no matter the parentage of any of the minors.

I'm sorry, but it wasn't clear. I thought you were referring to the man who was flirting with her on the bus and she turned him down because he was on the bus and supposedly poor and wouldn't be able to give her children warm clothes. I'm really am not trying to start an argument. I'm trying to have a conversation and I misunderstood and thought you thought she expected men she meets to be rich enough to support her when she needs to be supporting herself.

sorry i'm trigger happy with the defense because people on here tend to be bananas.

No problem. I actually think you're usually a ray of sanity in a cloud burst of anger.