Alimony should be gotten rid of, yes. It's worth noting though that the spouse who makes less qualifies for it even if it's the man (my uncle qualified for it in his divorce in California five years or so ago). Child custody should also always be 50/50 unless in cases of clear agreement or proven abuse (by either parent). Additional: women already do also have to pay child support if they don't have custody, under the same rules, so there's that. And it should be PARENTAL LEAVE. This is why I don't understand why men don't make this a big issue. Do you not care about your kids? Are you uninterested in being there for their first days? SPEAK UP. Those first months are important, you deserve time with your new baby. You will have the rest of tour short life to do whatever it is you do for a career that the universe as a whole doesn't care about anyway.
It is there and men do care, it's just that you never hear it on the news because people are more interested in the "Women's civil plight they have endured for ages."
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· 9 years ago
It shouldn't just be on the news. It should be in petitions and on things spread around facebook and men should be asking the politicians who want their vote about it. It should be talked about, it should be in suggestion boxes at work, it should be bargained for by unions. But the majority of men prefer tossing up a meme and never once even so much as saying in a conversation "you know what would be good? If it wasn't just stupidly rich guys who could stay home with their newborns." Often because that kind of thing is "too womanly" to talk about.
There SHOULD be alimony for a set amount of time and there should NOT be child support if the custody is 50/50. The alimony would give the lesser earning spouse a chance to get on their feet, set up a home for their children, and adjust to a lifestyle without a second larger income. But since their income would be more or less equal (with alimony) they should each cover their own kids related expenses and agree on the rest. Child support for 50/50 custody doesn't make sense especially on top of alimony.
If I raised the kids instead of a career that was an agreed upon choice in the marriage. So when the marriage ends I'm not suppose to get any alimony, despite raising the kids and doing the laundry because it's "his money." That's not how marriage or divorce works.
It's weird to me how mandating equal pay needs to be countered with getting rid of things women now get (even though alimony is for men too). I would think mandating equal pay should be a no brainer but what do I know
If ex husbands didn't look After their ex wives then society would have to. The child support idea was brought forth by a group of judges who thought that women couldn't look after themselves. And they're Right.
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