Um. I'm an American boy and I've never spoken like this. Even in gest I've never said anything so stupid or disrespectful. Then again, all the guys I see that do talk like that have girlfriends. So maybe I'm missing something.
I could have easily made a comment here referring to you "missing a couple balls" but I felt like that may possibly come off as rude and offensive. But I said it anyway so hey ho ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
It's true man. I work at a bar and I see it all the time. One of my coworkers was talking to this dude and the only reason she could come up with for why she liked him was because he was an asshole. Do you have a girlfriend?
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· 8 years ago
As an actual girl I find assholes really off putting along with "nice guys" who are even bigger assholes. Although I have seen girls go after assholes then complain about being with an asshole, it's all very annoying.
I don't think I'm entitled to sex at all. In fact sex is one of the last things on my mind when I'm talking to a girl. I just think I'm entitled to at least a friendly conversation over dinner without being stood up.
He also said it didn't matter if an interviewer didn't think I was qualified enough for a job that I just had to walk in there and flash my pretty face and boobs then I'd have a job in a flash. He wonders why girls won't date him.
Well how do you approach getting that dinner in the first place? The reason why women go after assholes at a bar is because they want a quick lay but they don't wanna seem easy and don't want a guy who's gonna trip his way through sex assholeness implies confidence implies sexual prowess while shy politeness implies the opposite.
I guess the way my life is right now isn't very conducive to my cause because I work at a bar and I have one friend with whom I hang on weekends. But I'm not shy at all until it comes to asking for numbers or plans because I've been shut down and looked over so much in the past that I fear rejection more than I fear dying alone.
Talk to people. Also if you make a friendship relationship with a chick, don't be a dick and try to get her to date you. If you are planning to date, go in with that mindset. Don't try to fuckin trick someone.
I'm not trying to trick anyone dude. Do you get that vibe from my comments? Like I'm some sort of murderer trying to be friends with people so I can lure them into my basement so I can steal their vertebrae? And I do talk to people. I work at a bar. It's my job to talk.
I need to develop a social life. Almost all of my friends stopped talking to me after one of them started dating my ex girlfriend. The only person I have in my life other than my family is my best friend Sam.
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· 8 years ago
What man is saying is don't go into it just being friendly, flirt, a lot just obvious flirting and say you wanna take them out because otherwise it gets confusing. I'm asexual as fuck and I flirt with literally everyone my sarcasm doesn't help so since I carry that type of relationship with everyone and I don't exactly get physical cues it's hard for me to tell when someone is legit interested in me. So I prefer it if someone straight out asks or I ask them. Being rejected hurts but it's all a part of it you're gonna be rejected countless times before someone says yes and you can't find the people that say yes if you don't put yourself out there.
And like man said find people outside of work most people are there to hang out with friends or get a quick lay finding a lasting relationship there friendship or otherwise is really rare
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· 8 years ago
Don't even worry about it. I have literally one friend and I'm bad at meeting new people so you aren't alone. You just gotta put yourself out there even if it is nerve-wracking it slowly gets less nerve-wracking and you get better at it.
- Actual British youth