Hey, I don't think talking about something like this in the comments is exactly a good idea. If I can help in anyway I can ya know I would I'm sure anyone here (besides some douchey guests maybe) but I really hope everything's okay.
I'm so bad at this I'm sorry I'm not much help
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· 8 years ago
I'm slightly more okay today. Talked to someone who helped. I'll be okay. But thanks for that.
The notion that -one- person is perfect for you (or anyone) has always seemed silly to me. Of course there are multiple people you would be perfectly happy to hangout with for the rest of your life.
True, but the way I have always seen it is if you are already in a commited relationship you shouldn't be looking for someone else. If you are looking you shouldn't be in that relationship.
Certainly you shouldn't be actively looking. That's no good. But if someone happen to come along that fits you better, you shouldn't just assume you're already with the "one and only" person for you. Everyone truly needs to do what's in -their- best interest, that's all :)
I feel like this can apply to so many people because "the one" will always be the position belonging to whoever is actively trying to make you happy (and is succeeding at it, too) it's not exclusive to one person. The question of whether or not to follow that person when you're already in a relationship depends on the situation itself, but it should also be considered that the person you're already with can become "the one" you're looking for, even if he/she isn't yet, out of some patience and good communication
Which is why once you have decided to be in a committed relationship,i.e. married, you stop looking even if somebody comes along who seems "better." If you're not married, then all bets are off.
This is the reason western civilisation dies, big on speeches but its a virgin, who not a single clue about life. Congrats you took dating advice from a warrior monk.
I'm so bad at this I'm sorry I'm not much help