I'd wager a good 5 bucks that the people mad about getting friendzoned because someone "owes them sex" are typically that ~5% of the population that actually believes that people owe them sex.
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The rest of us are over dating a girl for 6 months, a year, or more, and getting introduced as "This is my friend".
Or we develop a beautiful friendship based on mutual trust and confidence, shared experiences, etc. We go on dates, exclusively with one girl for what feels like forever. She lets us hold her hand. But the moment we mention commitment on her part (nothing sexual, just the idea that maybe we should both stop seeing other people), she's suddenly not interested the way she has been for the last forever.
Or the kicker, "Oh my gosh, I wish I had a boyfriend like you"
-Well, I am single, and interested.
"But you're my friend!"
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Contrary to popular belief and mainstream media, men do have feelings, and don't just care about sex.
"Contrary to popular belief and mainstream media, men do have feelings, and don't just care about sex." - then what? You want more than holding hands, then what is it you want? You want commitment and exclusive dating, but not at least first base? Yeah, right. Maybe girls are just more realistic and know that if a guy is talking about "commitment on her part (nothing sexual, just the idea that maybe we should both stop seeing other people)" it will turn into something sexual and she doesn't want that, while the boy really believes all he wants is to build a mattress fort, and not pitch a tent. If you're talking about friendzoning, you want a relationship to turn into something sexual. and if you're not thinking about sex at all. you wouldn't talk about friendzoning. That's a catch 22.
Yes, sex is just about inevitable in a serious relationship, but if that is the only thing you take into consideration, that is your problem, not ours.
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· 7 years ago
Don't you project that shit on me. That's not even remotely what I was saying. It seems you're the one with the problem, which only begins with the delusion sex is nothing but sexual intercourse. You don't look that young on your pics, but that really sounds as if you never even french kissed.
@halfdeadhammerhead keep dropping those truth bombs. Let me just spell something out for y'all right here and now: WOMEN DONT FRIENDZONE GUYS THEY SECRETLY WANT TO DATE. If I'm not attracted to you sexually, I'm or attracted to you sexually, end of story. And as @famousone so kindly pointed out, sex and serious relationships often go hand in hand. We can't control who we're attracted to (or not attracted to for that matter) so "I want to date someone *like* you, but not you" is a perfectly valid statement. Furthermore, the validity of a statement is completely divorced from how it makes the listener feel.
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· 7 years ago
@famousone "she came around" means what exactly? And did you communicate to her in any way that something she said "shot you down" and why? IOW: could it be you never let her know before that you wanted more than friendship from her?
We met at school and became fast friends. I was happy with that for a couple of years, but the more I got to know her the more I liked her. I asked her out and she said she didn't want to "ruin our friendship", and I left it at that. The next day was business as usual, like nothing happened. And every day after that for over a year. Until I asked her out again, and she said yes.
Depends on the situation if your leading the guy on for food and rides and to get him to buy you things than don't be shocked he wants sex men are pretty simple if you let them court you then expect them to want to go all the way. Oh and if he is creepy then he is not a friend you are just using him and I hope karma gets you. End up working as a hooker or some thing.
Yes, true. If you lead a guy on (make him think that you're interested in dating him when you're not) you're manipulating him for your own persona gain and that isn't okay. However, if you're being friendly and a guy thinks it's bc you like him (he misinterprets you) then that's his problem.
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Hold up, I just had another thought.
Why would a woman stay friends with a creepy male who thinks she owes him sex?
Honestly wondering. I don't understand it, and neither does my wife.
Any insight?
The post explicitly mentions sex, but the bottom line is clear: you don't owe SHIT to ANYONE. Even if you've been dating and they want to make it more exclusive. The whole purpose of dating is to test the relationship, and if you're not feeling it, then don't pursue it. Likewise, to the rejected people, why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who isn't interested?
Well, how was your day?
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The rest of us are over dating a girl for 6 months, a year, or more, and getting introduced as "This is my friend".
Or we develop a beautiful friendship based on mutual trust and confidence, shared experiences, etc. We go on dates, exclusively with one girl for what feels like forever. She lets us hold her hand. But the moment we mention commitment on her part (nothing sexual, just the idea that maybe we should both stop seeing other people), she's suddenly not interested the way she has been for the last forever.
Or the kicker, "Oh my gosh, I wish I had a boyfriend like you"
-Well, I am single, and interested.
"But you're my friend!"
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Contrary to popular belief and mainstream media, men do have feelings, and don't just care about sex.
Why would a woman stay friends with a creepy male who thinks she owes him sex?
Honestly wondering. I don't understand it, and neither does my wife.
Any insight?