Here's another way of looking at it: she's giving the reasons that hooking up,with him are inconvenient or outside of what "normal." She doesn't ever say, "I'm just not interested." It's like when you tell a salesman that you don't have the money to buy what he's selling...he'll explain that you can finance the thing, how it'll save you money in the long run or whatever...he's SELLING the thing.
Better to say "No thanks" than to hide behind "I have a boyfriend" because plenty of women have sex with other people behind the BF's back, and you may not think much of those who do that, but that's just the kind of hookup he's looking for. Your "sales resistance" method is inviting him to apply salesman tactics.
Sure, some guys keep pushing after you say "no" but you may as well weed out the other ones first by being straightforward rather than hiding behind ineffective excuses.
Although I really don't mind hooking up with a chick who has a boyfriend (it's her responsability to be faithful, if she is willing to cheat with me, she would be willing to cheat with someone else, so I figure it might as well be me), if a girl TELLS YOU she has a boyfriend (in a 'fuck off, i'm not on the market' kinda way) and you still try to hit on her, then you're an asshole.
She's the one that needs to stay faithful to her bf, and while I think it's shitty that people would wrong someone like that, no one else has an obligation to make sure your relationship is a good one
Except when I'm in a relationship I take it upon myself to be faithful. As I said, if she is gonna cheat, she is gonna cheat, might aswell be me ripping the benefits of that. I don't owe her anything, she is a grown up, making grow up's decision, it ain't my job to make sure she makes the right ones.
How am I garbage for letting others make their own choices and making my own choices ? if someone flirts with you (let alone if YOU start flirting first), you respond positively, and you end up cheating on your partner and then you put the blame on the person who you cheated with... Maybe you're garbage and you need to learn to take responsability for your actions.
Better to say "No thanks" than to hide behind "I have a boyfriend" because plenty of women have sex with other people behind the BF's back, and you may not think much of those who do that, but that's just the kind of hookup he's looking for. Your "sales resistance" method is inviting him to apply salesman tactics.
Sure, some guys keep pushing after you say "no" but you may as well weed out the other ones first by being straightforward rather than hiding behind ineffective excuses.