Maybe a little passive aggressive, but I do agree with the sentiment. Being a good mom is hard, and the incredible women who mother well should be celebrated. But bringing a child into this world should not obligate the child to celebrate you in and of itself.
I get it. I definitely called the woman who spent literal years criticizing my every mistake and mocking my tears to wish her a happy Mother's day. And if I did not have to work a 12hr shift that day I probably would have stopped by. And I did that because despite all the bad things, there was a lot I did appreciate and I do love her. But no one should feel like they have to wish an abusive parent a happy anything.
I can't tell you how many times I've heard "She's family" as a reason to keep someone in your life and "because she loves you" as a justification for emotional abuse. Both are bullshit. Blood relation does not mean you should tolerate being mistreated. And while "She is hard on you because she loves you."...
...may be true, that doesn't make it right. I understand that people hurt each other out of a misguided sense of making their loved one "better" in some way. I also realize this often stems from unresolved issues that the abuser is suffering. That doesn't make the behavior acceptable. And at the end of the day, its important to keep abusive people from being able to abuse you, even if they do love you. Even if you love them too.
I get it. I definitely called the woman who spent literal years criticizing my every mistake and mocking my tears to wish her a happy Mother's day. And if I did not have to work a 12hr shift that day I probably would have stopped by. And I did that because despite all the bad things, there was a lot I did appreciate and I do love her. But no one should feel like they have to wish an abusive parent a happy anything.
I can't tell you how many times I've heard "She's family" as a reason to keep someone in your life and "because she loves you" as a justification for emotional abuse. Both are bullshit. Blood relation does not mean you should tolerate being mistreated. And while "She is hard on you because she loves you."...