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· 4 years ago
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Pretty accurate. It’s two fold- once that being “happy” or “content” in ones self has subtle influences on how we behave and act and our body language. Others pick up on that even subconsciously. Secondly, being content to be alone means coming to a place where you like yourself, you enjoy your company. If we can’t accept ourselves then it’s less likely others will accept us- and this touches on codependency. Something most people find consciously or subconsciously unattractive or a red flag- most people who don’t themselves have unresolved issues of dependency or on some level seek to use that codependency for their gain.
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· 4 years ago
Being wanted by someone who has a hole they would be fine with anyone filling doesn’t make a person feel very special- in fact many argue that you can’t form a REAL personal relationship with a person like that because you aren’t a person- you are a representation of an idea or an object that fills a need. I don’t think that’s always true- but I think to some degree that it is true people of all types fall into this from time to time- falling in love with an idea they project on to a person as opposed to the person themselves.
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