I'm always at war with myself: to stay in America and follow my dreams or go back to India and be the daughter my mom wanted /:
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· 11 years ago
I know that feeling.. I never wanted to be the "perfect" daughter but since my sister didn't turn out to be so all the pressure fell on me.. It's not fair..
As someone who has spent the last ten years working her way out from under a mountain of guilt for these very reasons, can I offer some advice?
It's *your* life. Trying to live it according to someone else's dreams *may* bring you success and their approval, but if what they want isn't also what *you* want, if you would choose something else without their influence, then DO IT. When you're old and the bounty of life's opportunities are behind you and not ahead, the one thing you *don't* want is to look back and realize that you let someone who doesn't really know you decide what your life would be like.
They don't *get* to or *have* to live with the consequences of your choices. You do. So choose carefully, and don't ever choose something you know you'll regret before you even begin.
It's *your* life. Trying to live it according to someone else's dreams *may* bring you success and their approval, but if what they want isn't also what *you* want, if you would choose something else without their influence, then DO IT. When you're old and the bounty of life's opportunities are behind you and not ahead, the one thing you *don't* want is to look back and realize that you let someone who doesn't really know you decide what your life would be like.
They don't *get* to or *have* to live with the consequences of your choices. You do. So choose carefully, and don't ever choose something you know you'll regret before you even begin.