.... is very similar to schizophrenia in symptomatic presentation and biochemical signature. High levels of glutamate, dopamine and kyneurin in the wrong parts of the brain lead to difficulty in maintaining concentration. Difficulty in maintaining concentration and restlessness is also a diagnostic indicator for most cases of depression, although this is not known by most people because it seems counter-intuitive.
The levels are actually very similar in most people, ill or not. This difference is whether they are present in the synapse or in the nerve cell itself. Cocaine for example will cause a surge in all of these chemicals into the synapse, but does not create any more of the chemicals, which is why there is such a massive comedown from drug highs. In depression, the chemicals are too rapidly absorbed back into the cells, which is why most anti-depressants are designed to keep the synapse levels high by blocking reabsorption into the nerve cells.
Anyone can develop schizophrenia under the right circumstances, although I doubt this is what you wanted to hear. All these illnesses have something in common, improper membrane channel functioning in the nerve cells, making levels of certain chemicals either too high, or too low in certain parts of the brain. Depressed people can still fall in love too. In fact depression can lead to falling in love more easily as they chase the dopamine high they experience when they are around certain people. Although this makes it like an addiction for them. To address your final inaccuracy, you assume that there is a person for everyone and this person is constant. This is not true. Depending on how you feel at the time you meet someone, that person could become the love of your life, or just another person you walk past on the street. There are millions of people who would be a perfect partner to you, not just one. It is also not their responsibility to be the perfect person for you.
....... To answer your question, you will not know it when you meet them, because that is not how it works. You have to get to know someone, and then you can begin the process of changing yourself to suit them, while they change to suit you. Don't expect to never change, that is naive. Changing for someone you love is also not a sign of weakness, it is called compromise. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself, that is not attractive to anyone. Also don't get involved with someone who says they really want to help you get better, that is not a healthy relationship. They will get bored once you do get better; plus you will be a different person by that time too.
1. I never said it was?
2. *Sass* said there is someone for everyone, I neither agreed not disagreed, but allowed for the possibility, which is exactly what you told me to do. So yay! I accomplished something today! *puts gold sticker on her chart* My therapist will be pleased. ^_^
3. I'm demi anyway, so "love at first sight" is already out the window and I won't ever "fall" in love so much as stroll slowly down the mountainside hand in hand.
4. Whether there is a single "soulmate" or a million of potential partners for each person is a rather existential debate, not a provable fact, and the true answer (if there is one) is probably more dependent on the person in question than anything else. What if your "soulmate" was born a thousand years ago? What if all but one of your entire pool of candidates lives on the other side of the world right now so you only *think* there's one. There's just no way to really know, is there?
I'm not feeling sorry for myself. It was both a fucking joke and a serious question because of my unique circumstances—which you don't know. After all, none of this takes into account the fact that I have a stalker who has made me wary of relationships or the fact that I am not heteronormative and live in a highly bigoted area.
I appreciate your concern, but I have a therapist, I don't need your comment section psychoanalysis.
When I see you my dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocinare are so high
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Or love. >.>
2. *Sass* said there is someone for everyone, I neither agreed not disagreed, but allowed for the possibility, which is exactly what you told me to do. So yay! I accomplished something today! *puts gold sticker on her chart* My therapist will be pleased. ^_^
3. I'm demi anyway, so "love at first sight" is already out the window and I won't ever "fall" in love so much as stroll slowly down the mountainside hand in hand.
4. Whether there is a single "soulmate" or a million of potential partners for each person is a rather existential debate, not a provable fact, and the true answer (if there is one) is probably more dependent on the person in question than anything else. What if your "soulmate" was born a thousand years ago? What if all but one of your entire pool of candidates lives on the other side of the world right now so you only *think* there's one. There's just no way to really know, is there?
I appreciate your concern, but I have a therapist, I don't need your comment section psychoanalysis.