As an insult a lot of guys will call other guys girls and they get quite upset over it, but at the same time a lot of girls call other girls boys and they get quite upset about it so it's nothing to take too seriously
Think of the worst insult you can call a boy. Really, bad. I bet in your head right now you are thinking some slur for either a woman or a homosexual (so a 'feminine' man). Boys are told to stop acting like girls in practices, to nut up, princess- this isn't a tea party. In a thousand ways they are told being and behaving as a girl is wrong, unacceptable, and will be mocked. This is widespread.
Saviorself I was something along the line of; you look like 360 pounds of chewed up bubble gum, or you're about as much as a fuck tard as a dinosaur. Or calling Chris brown a chimp.
For a girl to be called a tomboy does not have the same societal implications of calling a boy a girl- there isn't even a mirror term for an acceptable way for a young boy to be feminine leaning like there is a tomboy girl.
If you refer to someone by a gender that they are not, they would be upset. Boy gets called a girl, he'll get upset, and if a girl gets called a boy, she'll be upset. This isn't a social issue, it's life.
So if I tell a twelve year old boy he hits like a girl, plays baseball like a girl- that is equal to saying to a girl that she hits like a boy? No, it's not, because society has made boys think being a girl means being weak, being emotional, being scared. It is definitely a social issue, because society is who creates these stereotypes.
Well, as I look around me, I can definitely see why being called a girl would be insulting for men tbh. Women themselves create these stereotypes, not the media. Obviously, this isn't always the case, but more often than not, young girls don't show many qualities other than the ones you just listed. The social issue here isn't that boys are offended when called girls, but that girls aren't shown that they can act differently.
Funny because only a small percent of girls act like that and that's what everyone focuses on. The rest are ignored. Therefore, we are all classified as either "weaklings", "sluts", or something else that not true but I'm too lazy to think about it.
Oh, nonononono not true. Many of the other girls around me were raised to act that way. I never met another girl in school who didn't have the mindset of "well, this is just the way it is." I think our disagreement is coming from the fact that we seem to have way different backgrounds. I was raised to be a submissive "lady" specifically, but you were raised in a more "normal" way I guess. Either way, our world views are completely different, so we aren't likely to reach an agreement on this issue.
I think you are highlighting something really important- that "well, this is just the way it is" mentality- that means it's not natural, it's not something that we are born with- it has to be taught and driven into us by society (and media especially!). Just because in public girls and boys may choose to go with this modified behavior, these norms, that doesn't mean we're all the same by any means. Each person has a universe in them- and when we look around and question why we behave these ways, we recognize there was never a reason to in the first place.
I was raised in a family and in a country where things were pretty much crap everywhere (and occasionally decent farms) but we were always taught to behave like we were of higher rank. And we had manners, certain uniform, and stuff like that. Then when I moved to Canada, I went to a school that was pretty good (it wasn't a public school anyway) but then there was this problem where half our grade were sluts and man-whores, and the other half (the ignored half) are what I would call the civilized people. Of course none of them had good behaviour (except one or two people who ended up MOVING AWAY) so when I wrote my point, I mostly referring to what I saw was happening in my grade at elementary school.
Do you mean the worldview thing? I think it's really important to consider the different ways that people were raised and how they think when you're debating or arguing with them. (I'm extremely obsessive-compulsive, and I have to constantly have that idea in my head so I don't kill anyone)
But back to the point, apparently I am off in a world far, far away where literally everyone is the same. -_- The girls around me all act with only the traits that young boys find repulsive and that's why I find it understandable that they are offended when they are called girls.
Everyone I know is so competitive, that when one person insults them (even if it's not hurtful or doesn't make sense) they will bombard the other person with swears and insults. Some people even wrote a book called the big book of disses. It's scary to watch and kinda sad
When I was 12 if someone called me a girl I would call them one back and then see who's hands weighed more. But I'm from the south so I was probably raised different.
We are teaching them to be glad not to be girls because of what we start suffering through once a month pretty soon after that age.
You can count on girls to make sure the guys know how lucky they are
But back to the point, apparently I am off in a world far, far away where literally everyone is the same. -_- The girls around me all act with only the traits that young boys find repulsive and that's why I find it understandable that they are offended when they are called girls.
You can count on girls to make sure the guys know how lucky they are