You asked what I meant, which is why I said I wasn't comfortable sharing, it seemed fairly serious before imo.

I don't feel comfortable talking about what specifically some of my most intimate secrets are, but I'm sure you could google strange fetishes, or find a local fetish group to talk to, they're pretty good with spreading understanding and making sure everyone remains comfortable. You really don't need to "back away slowly", it's not like I'm a freak, thanks. There are plenty of people who are turned on by weird things, and it's not like I'd do anything the person I was with wasn't okay with.

I agree that it's not okay for people who do have enough to use those things, but (and I don't know if this is true in the UK) with wages as low as they are, some people don't have the opportunity to do those things. My mom has been on welfare my whole life, but we also don't go out to the movie and do fun things unless my dad pays for it (they're divorced, but they still get along). My dad pays for our internet and all my electronics. Our AC doesn't work in our car, and we didn't turn the heat up higher than 65 degrees all winter, which is /really cold/. My mom works a lot, and it's not due to lack of effort that we're on welfare, however, I don't anticipate it stopping at least until my younger sister is out of the house as well as myself.

One time I was wearing a tube top and had a blanket pulled up under my armpits and my dad's friend sent my dad in to request I put I shirt on. I almost died laughing.

Still not as bad as bright red, I think.

You will end time, evidently.

Republicans are the ones who want reduced government "influence" and assistance, and that includes food stamps, medicade, ect. They're also against abortion.

They may be too small to receive all vaccinations, and despite getting regularly vaccinated, I still got chicken pox as a child. Vaccinations help the body fight the disease and prevent serious damage, not provide a complete barrier.

People who are against abortion are, in general, not pro-life, they're pro-birth. For some reason a great number of people (and I"m not saying all) who are against abortion are also against food stamps, and other government help. I would much rather abort a fetus than abuse a toddler. The fetus cannot feel it, and the living child can. And the fact is, there are unconventional abortion methods that people can try if they're desperate enough, which often don't work, and can endanger the mother. They can result in permanent damage to a child that still gets carried to term, who either suffers all their life or dies later from that damage. There are already so many kids who don't have homes, and who are raised without a mother and father, and I feel that we should really take care of them rather than saying that women can't get abortions. Even after that, I'd be pro-choice.

Oh my god, just because a US politician says something doesn't make it true, Sadtruth. There is nothing in the female body that can shut down a pregnancy once there is sperm in her fucking vagina. That was a judgmental point made to attempt to blame women for problems they didn't cause, to continue to blame them for supposed 'false' rapes, and to try to illegalize abortion. He's an idiot, and frankly, so are you if you believe that. Even the person who wrote the article thinks he's an idiot, read the first fucking paragraph, or any of the article at all!
http://www.babycenter.com/404_when-can-i-hear-my-babys-heartbeat_10349811.bc You can't hear it until you're 8 weeks at least. It doesn't even START BEATING until 6 weeks in, because the fetus does not have a heart. 12 weeks is far more common.

What if you're not financially capable of taking care of a child, or your child will have a poor life? If you're not medically stable, or there was incest, , or any NUMBER of things? There are plenty of children who have awful homes or no homes at all, we don't need to add to that number. Furthermore, whether it's legal or not, some people will still try it, which is ineffective and can result in harming the children or the mother.

There are more options than telling them very nicely to not do something that big a deal and slapping their butt every time they do something remotely wrong. If your child is throwing a tv in the pool, I think the cause is already lost and there's not much you can do at that point, even with physical punishment. If you are a permissive parent, there is NOTHING that you can do to change them once they get used to that, because they will NEVER take you seriously. You have to set out rules and limits and then they won't do stupid shit like that. If they do, there needs to be much more relevant and long-term punishment than a few swats on the bum.

"Electrocute: to injure or kill someone by electric shock." Not necessarily death, thanks. And that would depend on where you draw the line on child abuse. I don't consider it child abuse, but it also wasn't just a slap on my butt. Either way, is it really worth the risk of ruining your relationship with your kid, when clearly there are other ways to handle children?

No, it's okay to abort a fetus, which is not capable of living if not attached specifically to you. Children can be adopted, fetuses cannot. There are plenty of reasons to abort, and you shouldn't be questioned as to why you're getting one.

Better examples for where to draw the line: if you can't reach a kid's butt, why not smack them upside the head? There are some parents who handle spanking well, and do explain things, but the VAST MAJORITY do not. They simply swat at their children, and don't talk to them about what happened or why, or what they did wrong. They think of punishment as the only part of discipline, and it's not. In order to truly make it effective, you have to make sure your children understand, no matter what method you're using. You have to have a set punishment for certain actions, and carry out that punishment, and your children have to understand that from the moment the punishment is set to the moment they become adults. Otherwise, it's going to be ineffective, whether you spank them or ground them.

I /do/ see the difference, but spanking is still corporal punishment, and in children it still evokes a fear response. You realize there are people who get struck by lightning and survive? I shocked myself with a plug and an outlet, and I fell off the counter before any serious damage could be done, thereby removing me from the circuit. There is a huge difference between beating a child up, and slapping them for punishment, and spanking as a form of punishment, but not everyone SEES that difference. My mother didn't, and she saw nothing wrong with how she treated me until years later. It's especially hard for children to know the difference, and many children (myself included, when I was young) can't tell the difference between how they're treated and what's normal. And frankly, I was not treated that badly. I never got scars, or even really bruises, and I still turned out that way.

"I retain my own opinion despite actual evidence to the contrary" *thumbs up* Children respect people if their parents teach them to have respect, and if those parents have respect. There is no correlation, not even a logical one, between spanking and respect. There is a logical relation between hitting your child and fear, and I'm not saying that spanking = hitting, but it's not far off. My mom certainly didn't know the difference, I was so scared of her I didn't tell her when I electrocuted myself when I was 5 years old. I was afraid to order the sandwich I actually wanted around her from Subway when I was 17 because she had informed me five years prior that "pepperoni isn't a real sandwich". No, not every parent who spanks is going to be like that, but it's still unnecessary physical punishment that provides a shortcut to actual parenting.

That's because some parents don't actually parent, regardless of whether they spank their kid or not. Spanking is not the deciding factor. It doesn't REQUIRE physical pain to discipline your child.

I honestly think it's so retarded that we could go to prison and get raped with our under developed brains, but we can't choose to have a beer.

Follow some people, check tags. :)

I think it's none of your business if a 19 year old and a 41 year old decide to date. (Also that's not even the scenario.) And no one ever answered Garlog's question. Why is it creepy to date young people? It's not like the dad's gf is incapable of decision making. It's as much her choice as it is his. If you find it creepy, don't date people with an age vastly different from your own.

I diiiiddd google it, the page wouldn't load ;c

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