I also notice a weird motivational parallel in the gender differences. Men are conditioned to seek power as a condition of success; most male serial killers and child abusers have an element of dominance or control in the crime (product killers = control over the corpse, process killers = control over life/death). Women are conditioned to seek social status, most easily signified either by wealth/stability or desirability; most female serial killers kill for money (most!) and you said above female child abusers abuse to feel desired.

Ok, so it parallels the approach/rationalization patterns serial killers follow (well, I’ll just buy the materials and stash them where I might think about something like that. … I’ll just pick out which house I *would* approach…”)

(I specify created without a minor because deliberately consuming porn created with a minor involved has left “crossing the line” well in the dust)

Toys or artificially created materials (i.e. porn created without involving an actual minor) may be crossing a line, but there’s no functional way to police people’s thoughts. If it’s true, though, shouldn’t it still be widely known that indulging in the fantasies strengthens rather than diffuses them?

… actually, you know how when doing heavy physical activity you often don’t need to hit the restroom as often because you’ve sweated most of the water you’d normally pee? I suspect the same concept applies to fursuits, cause I’ve seen fursuit hair and it is absolutely plastered with sweat.

Most do not have holes for bathrooms. You gotta get at least partially out of the things briefly about every 2 hours or so or you can get some wicked heat exhaustion.

For the love of little green apples, can we PLEASE all agree only to use the word literally in the literal sense? Otherwise it’s now a Janus word and therefore largely unintelligible.

Btw, is there a known difference between kink and paraphilia when it comes to the “indulging the fantasy approaches desiring the reality” thing? Cause I have kink fantasies (nothing involving children or nonconsent, thank God) that I’ve had for quite a while that I really, 100% do not want to happen in real life.

Oh, Lord, have you seen that Crunchyroll promo video where he rates cats from anime?

Blood, yes. Gore, yes. Extended suffering, no. Think Another, not Hostel.

Commas are important. I had a moment of thinking you meant we were each supposed to have our own lydia.

Blehhh extra human suffering. No thanks. … hell, I don’t even like most live action porn for that reason.

Yes, please, if you know what the data on that is! Female vs. male serial killers is already pretty interesting.

Means is the issue right now. And I mostly meant that I want to visit it rather than live there.

Probably also contributes to the pure white makeup, too.

… unfortunately, I have zero clue about any individual African cultures and cannot comment there.

There’s a weird effect in most European, Asian, and non-indigenous American cultures of having a bias towards lighter skin tones. I know that in many European cultures, after a certain point pale skin was considered beautiful for similar reasons - it indicated the person had the wealth to avoid laboring in sunlight (when coupled with other traits that indicated wealth instead of illness (double parenthetical: unless, of course, you’re talking about the era in which, I shit you not, dying of tuberculosis was fashionable. Because fashion is crazy, that’s why.))

TYVM for the book recommendations! @xvarnah: I see your point and have to agree with you in the specific case of pedophilia terminology, but have to disagree with the point as a whole. The euphemism treadmill is an ongoing thing, certainly, but adapting to culture and circumstances as they change is a part both of every discipline and of language use as a whole (shit, the main chronic disease I have has gone through four goddamn names since diagnosis, based on the changing understanding of how it works. My doctors all being at different phases of the conversation also does not help.) Refusing to acknowledge that the context and connotation of a word has changed limits communication from both sides. For instance, if someone were to insist upon using the term “incel” in the sense and context in which it was originally coined, they could end up saying a number of unintentional things ranging from confusing to heinous.

It’s news to a disturbing number of people.

The problem with demonizing the perpetrators of a particular sort of offense is that it frequently leads to people thinking that a “normal” person couldn’t possibly do that, which leads to people getting away with it. I mean, Dean Corll? Nah, everybody knows Dean, he runs the candy factory. (Yes, there are other factors, such as insufficient police growth and prioritization of wealthy districts. There is always a confluence of factors. But none of Dean’s acquaintances thought it could be him. Not even his storage facility manager, despite the fact Dean’s lot smelled undeniably of corpse.)

Most of the nonwhite people I’ve seen who care are 2nd and 3rd generation Americans, not 1st generation immigrants.