Friend Question
by rydler · 12 comments 5 years ago
rydler · 5 years ago
So. I have a "friend" who I've known for a couple years. But they aren't being nice to me, and I've brought it up to them multiple times. They aren't nice and don't care about it.
What should I do?
jay2327 · 5 years ago
Stop being friends with them. If they value your friendship, they will smarten up and change. If they don't, then you just got rid of a negative person from your life. You brought it up and they don't seem to care. Why should you make yourself miserable when they don't care?
rydler · 5 years ago
Here's the issue.
I like the rest of my friends, and i want to ve around them, but he's around them all the time too
rosalinas · 5 years ago
Ignore his existence
He isnt your friend, he's just a stinky piece of meat that stuck between your teeth
jay2327 · 5 years ago
I agree with Rosa, ignore him then.
hermionegranger · 5 years ago
Yeah, I agree with the rest. Don’t be around him if he makes you feel negative. Remember a friend of a friend doesn’t automatically make them my friend.
rydler · 5 years ago
Well, I was friends with him first
freudiandip · 5 years ago
Still, toxic people shouldn't be a part of your life. You don't need that shiz
dimebag · 5 years ago
Doesn't matter how long you were friends with them, if they turn into a massive cunt there's nothing wrong with cutting ties.
guest_ · 5 years ago
You’re part of the same group. Wether it’s friends, family, inlaws, coworkers, whatever; there will be people we don’t get along with but we must be civil towards if we want to still be in the group. So here’s what you do (or don’t do.) Don’t: try and make people pick sides, use your friends in your conflict, put them in the middle, or making having you around a pain in the ass for them. Don’t bicker with the other friend or cause drama. Do: assert yourself. Make it clear through behavior that you are part of the group, willing to be civil, and will not tollerate that treatment. You’ve asked, they didn’t listen, so not act. People treat us the way we teach them to. This person is free to not like you but they will show basic respect. Call them on their shit. If they diss you in the group say you do not appreciate that. Point it out when it happens, and if they keep going ask them if the two of you are going to have a problem, or if you can get along. Tell them straight up if they...
guest_ · 5 years ago
Have a problem to keep it between y’all and not make everyone else have to deal with it. Don’t be a whiny bitch or start fights. But put them in their place when they step out of line. Be strong, not a punching bag but also not turning every petty slight in to a big deal. Point out their rudeness and what not so the group can notice. Let them make themselves look bad, but also if they try to make you their bitch one up them, if you have the wit to beat them in a verbal match. They key is for you to let them cause problems, stick up for yourself but not make your friends feel you are either weak, or a problem causer. Eventually friends get tired of fighting and limit time with people who do, so make them the annoying friend by subtly winding them up and letting them cause drama. Never say things like “it not going if they are...” behave at parties and the like. Then tear them apart “off the clock” so every time they see you they can’t behave.
guest_ · 5 years ago
Your friends will get tired of their shit, or they’ll learn not to fuck with you. If it goes far enough you might have to whoop their ass. Violence is a last resort. Don’t use it lightly. Don’t get caught or do so in a way that could cause legal trouble. Best is to force a situation where you’re justified as defending yourself or at least mutually at fault so they won’t press charges. Whatever method you use- the key is to establish in their mind that you won’t be fucked with, and they can’t win against you- without making your other friends think you’re annoying.