Serious talk: Sorry guys, don't know who else to turn to. For financial and other reasons, I still live with my ex-girlfriend. We broke up about two weeks ago. She just brought home another guy and they went into her room. I've never felt this way. I feel like I am going to have a heart attack and a seizure and a blackout and wake up with two bodies or not wake up at all. I don't know what to do. I don't feel safe leaving and I don't want to do anything I regret if I stay. Hopefully someone has some guidance.
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formermember · 3 comments
5 years ago
guest_
· 5 years ago
Breath. Clear your head. Your mind can imagine many things and that’s your enemy. Focus in the moment. You don’t know what’s going on so assume it’s nothing to get worked up over. Now- leave. Go somewhere else. Take a walk, get dinner, whatever. Leave. If you have the option, I’d strongly consider moving to a new place. Since you’re there- I assume you don’t. So you’ll need to talk to her. You don’t feel comfortable. Manage your temper and your feelings, and realize that as long as you are both there you’ll have to find away to make it work. So tell her. Tell her that whatever happened and whatever your other feelings are that you just have a hard time and maybe you need to agree on some things about brining people over. At least some sort of advanced notice so the other one can leave. Figure out what YOU need from her to be able be at least functionally ok. It will be about cooperating and communicating.
jay2327
· 5 years ago
I think @Guest_ got it head on. When you're able to, sit down and talk to her. Let her know you're uncomfortable with it and try to find common ground when it comes to bringing people over.
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· 5 years ago
What @guest_ said was spot on.
