You have to share your contact with them to recieve theirs

I did but funsubstance wont let me see it

It should be in your notifications

Beware. Notifications is a scary place. Once you go there it's a rough ride back.

@memegirl Were you able to get what you were looking for?

No

Oh :/
Did you try again?

Yes

There‘s usually a ‘Share Contacts‘ box on a user‘s profile. You should see it when you tap on the preferred user‘s name. On tapping the box, you‘re given the option to type in whatever contact you want to share. The preferred user gets a notification that you would like to share contacts, and is asked to share theirs too. They follow the steps you did, and both you and the preferred user get a notification containing each other‘s contacts(or whatever message sent). Stupid question, did you do it that way? (I don‘t intend to sound rude).

Well i did all the stuff but it must have been the other person not giving theirs fully

Ok. Probably that