I saw a video ad and it got me thinking. People, what is the expectation on dates? Should the same person be paying for every date? How do you decide who pays for the date? Is it wrong to want to split 50/50, should every second date be your responsibility to pay?
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jay2327 · 5 comments
5 years ago
mialinay
· 5 years ago
Well I don't know about other people... But my ex and I used to try to even it out by taking turns and I think that's the best way to do it.
lnorthstar
· 5 years ago
My significant other and I would take turns when we were dating. After we moved in together, we still took turns, but if one of us had an impulse "let's get pizza" urge on a night we had planned to cook, then that person had to pay since it was their idea.
catfluff
· 5 years ago
Yeah, my bf and I also split bills: either the one of us pay the first half of the month's expenditures and the other pays the second half; or we do it every second event/date (or more if it is not equal in value); or if it's a treat take-out suggested by one party, the party that suggested it pays. For big anniversaries and things, we do one year he plans and pays , second year me, third year both. That way we can also do surprises without clashing.
guest_
· 5 years ago
For dates who “should” pay is up to those involved. Personally- I go into any date assuming that I will pay. I will usually refuse their offers to pay or split unless they insist or seem uncomfortable with me paying. When in a relationship we split other bills and trips- one person paying for hotel and rental car, the other for plane tickets and sight seeing- that sort of thing. For “dates” with my current partner we fight or sneak for the bill. The person who is fastest grabs it, or you pretend to use the bathroom and open a tab or close the bill, you pick pocket their card or wallet from them before you go in to prevent them from doing that, both try to coerce the server or clerk to not take the other persons money, etc. Its a fun way to try to outsmart or out maneuver the other to “win” and pay by any and all means from graft to social engineering to lies. If you don’t want to pay that time you just let the other one pay without a fight or a fake fight and get it next time.
unicycle
· 5 years ago
I think a good general rule is that the person who does the asking also does the paying. As you get to know each other better you can work out a different arrangement, but for the first date the asker should expect to pay.
