pbachman21 · 1 week ago
This’ll take a minute to type out
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
So there’s this guy that I met awhile back. I thought he was cute so I went up to him and asked for his number (I know, bold). Anyways, we talked for a couple days and then kinda split. Then after several weeks of just side convos in school he messages me about a post I made and ever since then there was flirting, promises of cuddling and eating food and just a lot we had in common relationship wise.
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
So if any of you know me it’s that I type a lot and with larger words (I’m working on summarizing what I want to say cause I know reading a lot in a side convo can get exhausting). And I also like to have deep conversations with people. So I had tried to spark one but he always seems busy just playing games with “the boys” and I won’t get a response for like 15-20 minutes, which isn’t that big of a deal. I get that guy time is important.
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
He only seems to want to talk to me if we’re flirting or talking about something sexual, and I’m okay with flirting but we’ve only been talking for a little while and I don’t wanna get that deep into it.
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
I know that me sending him pictures of myself (nothing bad, just a shoulder or a part of my leg) just to get an ounce of attention from some guy I’m not that into is bad, but I want to anyways. I’m not sure why. I just want an innocent relationship where we enjoy each other’s company and they aren’t intimidated by me.
Could my funsubfam help me out?
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
He also won’t anyways respond to my messages even if he’s online :/
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
Also also, if this turns into a relationship then it will be my first one
iccarus · 1 week ago
he's after the idea of being with you, not with you. once he gets what he wants, he'll lose interest, quickly, stop the sexting and flirting and see if there are other interests, if not, it's just a phase. save yourself the heartache that will come later. I'm a guy.
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
I was planning on not texting him and waiting for him to text me first, and try posting pictures on my page for my friends to see and not with him in mind
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
And he had said that I was “a total catch”. And I guess I took that as he was interested in me
parisqeen · 1 week ago
I agree with @iccarus, he likes the idea. To me it just sounds like he's only interested in your body or the potential for sex. If he doesn't actually talk to you, like properly talk not just flirt and joke then he doesn't want you as a person. It's fun to play along with it and all but if you are actually looking for a relationship I wouldn't pursue this one.
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
I don’t want any joke relationships like that where all that people want is sex. I’m the type of person that wants to wait for that kind of thing until I know that I want to be with that person for the rest of my life. And this hormone filled boy is not gonna be the one for me.
But how do I stop wanting the attention, how do I tell myself that I don’t need it? I know that he’s kinda a douche bag, I understand that now (and I kinda did before too).
jingle · 1 week ago
Just saw this, but don't you worry gurl, I'm basically in the same boat as you, although I wanna save you from heartache, speaking by experience. I would say surround yourself with friends and try not to focus too much on this dude, if he was really interested he would try and talk to you, I know it's really really hard when you're invested, but try to back up. Try to hold out, and eventually that right person will like you for all of who you are, and you'll feel so much better instead of having to depend on this guy to talk to you. Just keep telling yourself to be strong, and find things that you love. It'll keep you from thinking about him. Hope that makes any sense.
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
Thank you for the kind words
jingle · 1 week ago
If you ever wanna talk or just need to vent, I'n always here to lend an ear
pbachman21 · 1 week ago
I just thought I was doing well with it. I did my best to show him the best parts of me and my personality, and he seemed to really like me. I thought I was going to have something, and then I blew it by talking too much to a short attention spanned boy.
And now I’m sitting alone, in my room, with no one to hold, crying over nothing thinking I’m not good enough. What is wrong with me? I’m not ever like this. I haven’t been like this in years.. I hate this feeling
jingle · 1 week ago
Hey, it's okay. We all have our moments where life doesn't seem fair. But when life seems dark, there's always a light. If he didn't appreciate who you are, then that means he's losing out on getting to really know an awesome person. It's a stupid feeling when we're sad. I personally know what it's like. I talked to some dude, and things were going really good, and then he 'reconnected' with someone went he went back home and now I'm over here pining over him wondering what I did wrong. You're not alone. There's nothing wrong with you.
parisqeen · 1 week ago
It's not like it's your fault or a bad thing to feel feelings bud. We want attention and love and there's nothing wrong with wanting that, even if we know someone might be bad for us we can still become attached and feel bad when we realise that person doesn't reciprocate the same type of love or attention. I think it hurts because you probably spent a lot of time and energy imaging the possibilities of a relationship with him, so it's okay to feel disappointed and upset. You can still want this attention, that's just the way most people are but to avoid getting yourself into an unhealthy relationship I would advise working on your self-worth. You're important and the #1 priority, treat yourself this way. Another person (although it would be nice) can't give you everything and solve every problem. You're a gorgeous person and will remain a gorgeous person no matter what people walk into your life, no matter what relationships you have.