mialinay · 1 week ago
Yes, I'm also still in contact with someone who used to be my best friend but somehow isn't anymore. And I can't really let her go because we've been friends for almost 20 years now.
mialinay · 1 week ago
It's not a nice feeling, but there are other people in your life that you'll love spending more time with, I'm sure
mystic_walker · 1 week ago
yea man, its a hard situation... you love your friend but are powerless and hate the situation, and you can't blame her *entirely* (she is responsible for her decisions however sometimes there are circumstances)..... its clearly her bf controlling her. Been through the same situation and its nasty. Best thing to do, and this is what i did personally: just keep in touch at arms length and be prepared to catch her when she falls. It might not mean as much to her but you'll be the bigger person at the end of the day, and happier for it. Being loyal is something that makes YOU the good person. And after that happens, if she still doesnt love and respect you as a person, then you might have to let go. But you did all you could and you can rest assured you did the right thing the whole way.
Side note* make sure your wellbeing is also looked after first. If you are able to look out for her then do so, but dont do it at your own expense either, because thats not healthy either.
Take care.
dash224 · 1 week ago
Thank you guys for reaching out! It’s kind of heartbreaking but I think I’ll get over it at some point
mystic_walker · 1 week ago
just look after yourself first and foremost- dont forget that. Things like this happen in life and you cant really do much about it sometimes. Breathe and be supportive and you'll get through it
mialinay · 1 week ago
Beautifully worded @mystic_walker