My old gf broke up with me almost a year ago due to not being able to handle the long distance relationship anymore (I'm in Canada, shes in britain). We still texted as friends, but recently shes been sending me some messages that make me think she wants to date again. Dont get me wrong, I still do like her a lot and would be happy to date her again, but I'm worried about the distance situation still. I dont want her to get hurt again bc of forces outside our control, but I dont want to hurt her by potentially not dating her either. I'm just worried I'm gonna end up fucking everything up and I dont know what to do.

Have asked her what her intentions are? Maybe she wants to keep you as a friend, you probably know her well and maybe she feels she can be open with you.

Be honest with her and explain how you feel about the whole thing then take it form there

That. Do that thing. Both the things. Both the things good.

^^^^^ couldn't have said it any better

Update: I guess her and I are back together again. I'm happy, but I also hope we can stay that way for a nice long time

I won't get into any gory details but relationships are hard, bud. You need to give but you also need to ask. If you need something then say it. Don't prance around feelings. If you don't get what you want then you won't last. Best wishes, my dude.

The issue isnt me. I'm totally happy dating her. I think shes absolutely amazing. I'm just worried that she may feel isolated again over the distance and get depressed about it all over again

@dr_richard_ew congrats! Glad to hear you're happy. Hope things work out good

thank you @jingle

Woohoo !

Best of luck. For what it is worth- before I saw your update I was coming here to say that you’re very sweet to care about her and think of her feelings and not want to hurt her- BUT: my advice was going to be to think a little more of yourself in this case. She’s (presumably?) an adult, or at least reasonably capable of making her own decisions, so if she couldn’t handle it last time but thinks she can this time- it’s not on you to try and decide what is best for her in what she wants. Just to decide if you want the same thing and if it’s best for you.

So I’m glad you kids have worked things out, and hope that a little time and some growing have made it so that this second go will last and be for the best. Relationships always carry a risk of being hurt for all involved. Definitely be careful with another persons heart and try to be kind- but generally never date someone because you don’t want to hurt their feelings by saying no- especially if you don’t want to date them. LDR are usually harder than in person- and relationships can be hard in general, but the pay offs can be more than worth it in a good relationship. Good fortune to you both, may the good vastly overshadow the turbulent.