You had my curiosity, but now you have my attention

I didnt know where to vent or who would be up at 3 am so funsub got the short end of my rage hah
Needless to say things like this tell me a single life is not too far over the horizon!

Well it's not 3am here, feel free to continue

Where you at ? It’s 3am here.
I’m in California
And where did they get drunk? We’re they home and FINALLY came to bed at 130am or were they out and FINALLY came home 130am dunk?

I'm in washington. No they obviously couldn't be OUT out cuz pandemic and all that.
So finally came to bed? I dont really know where the drinking was happening. Upstairs room maybe? Seems lonely.

And the rest of the story is him being grumbly that I even brought it up and then saying "I'm sorry you're having a hard night " and rolling over to start snoring. Tried to get back to sleep for a couple hours then decided F this I'm going to work early at least I could be making money instead of laying in bed raging

That is so disrespectful. Once is ok, but never again and he must apologize.

Sheesh, what an arsehole! Dump him. It honestly sounds like he has the beginnings of alcoholism and doesn't take your feelings seriously.
Sry if I sound harsh but I'm 43yo and I've seen this more times than I care to remember.

Doesnt sound harsh to me I'm on the same level. An acknowledgment/apology is all I cared about. "Sorry I hurt your feelings I didnt realize the consequence of my decision" and then I would've been able to get back to sleep no problem.

But I'm feeling better now that I'm awake and caffeinated! Thanks for the support and the ability to vent guys :)

Honestly sometimes i sortof do this without realizing it.
My wife usually wants to go to bed before I do, and she usually wants me to go with her, for what seems like the same reasons you're suggesting.
Sometimes if im working or something, or particularly the once or twice a week im playing xbox with my friends, she'll ask me if ik going to be up much longer, so she knows if she should wait up for me or not. I usually tell her i will only be 10-15 more minutes, but occasionally i lose track of time and it ends up being closer to an hour. She is understandably upset when that happens.
I do feel bad about it, but its a mixed bag. I really need time to myself sometimes, and for the most part she understands, but the lack of communication is what bothers her.

That's understandable and at least you are aware.
To clarify I didnt ask him to come to bed with me. He told me very enthusiastically that was his plan and so I made the mistake of believing it I guess

Oh, i didnt used to be aware all the time. As recent as a few months ago, i was completely oblivious to her signals about why she wanted me to come to bed. So i just thought it was because she wanted to make sure i got enough sleep. Then i couldn't figure out why she was so upset in the morning, after i gave an ambiguous response like "ill be jn bed before too late" and she understood that as "another 15 minutes or so" and I meant "im going to play xbox with my friends until midnight"