Yes ma'am 3 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
That actually does help, a lot. The self-judging and self-censorship is so strong that finding someone who you can relax around is priceless. Good job, allthegage.
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Pretty much 8 comments
Pretty much 8 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
Okay, what’s the point? Being American, I see it as the person saying the being white is not okay (as a result of the font color being the same color as the background). I’m definitely here for better readings, as that one is supremely stupid. What is the message?
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Pretty much 8 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
So...a choice works well for some groups, but not for your particular one. And it bothers you. HMMMMMMMM!!!!
In this case, it’s color choice of letters and total inconsequential to your life. However, in actual real life, such a thing (neutral choice results in negative effect) is called disparate IMPACT. This is as opposed to disparate TREATMENT (deliberate choice to create a negative effect). Still negatively affects a group.
Now imagine in your actual life people are always jumping up and insisting you’re “imagining” disparate impact/treatment, it’s not “that bad”, and/or accuse you of rabble rousing.
Then take a whole stadium of seats and be quiet about a self-manufactured slight, and this metaphorical nonsense. Being a fake underdog just gives you fake outrage and destroys empathy. Which sure is convenient if you want to feel good while not doing anything to make the world better. In fact, it gives you a great excuse not to care about anyone but yourself.
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In this case, it’s color choice of letters and total inconsequential to your life. However, in actual real life, such a thing (neutral choice results in negative effect) is called disparate IMPACT. This is as opposed to disparate TREATMENT (deliberate choice to create a negative effect). Still negatively affects a group.
Now imagine in your actual life people are always jumping up and insisting you’re “imagining” disparate impact/treatment, it’s not “that bad”, and/or accuse you of rabble rousing.
Then take a whole stadium of seats and be quiet about a self-manufactured slight, and this metaphorical nonsense. Being a fake underdog just gives you fake outrage and destroys empathy. Which sure is convenient if you want to feel good while not doing anything to make the world better. In fact, it gives you a great excuse not to care about anyone but yourself.
We are still doing this right? 2 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
No, there was going to be a festival nearby but it got cancelled. So apparently this means the raid was also cancelled.
This is so sad 7 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
My brain is too old for this meme format. I did okay last time, but this round is too much already.
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Agreed 19 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
Oh! Oops. I know a lady who does spell her name like that and it took me a while to remember. I guess now I’ve learned it too well, lol.
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Yeah, this is big brain time 2 comments
Agreed 19 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
Of all the stories, why is this Medusa? Why not Athena, Afrodite, Hera? Any female really except the lady who was gifted (by a goddess) a defense system after being assaulted in a temple.
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Made a donation to UNICEF for Christmas under a silly name. Turns out UNICEF respect 2 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
Yes! AND you might make a tax person smile, if your file is pulled for review.
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It's really sad 4 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
Tangent: This picture really hit me. In the context of parent to child, the parent tries so, so hard not to injure their child with their issues and illness, but it’s just there. All the time. Try so hard to scrub it off and keep it to yourself, but it is there.
The kid doesn’t know it’s not healthy or not neurotypical - the crying, the obsessive behaviors, the messiness; it’s just their life. They innocently mirror. All you can do as a parent is try your best; love the kid like crazy, and handle things as well as you can and seek resources. It will be enough. It will be more than enough. Don’t give up.
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The kid doesn’t know it’s not healthy or not neurotypical - the crying, the obsessive behaviors, the messiness; it’s just their life. They innocently mirror. All you can do as a parent is try your best; love the kid like crazy, and handle things as well as you can and seek resources. It will be enough. It will be more than enough. Don’t give up.
Does it autosend too ? 12 comments
Ok what the shit? 12 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
That - is an upsetting mental image. (I also briefly struggled and failed to figure out any version of the last sentence that isn’t a disaster in logic.) I assume the ad is for the therapy services we all need now? Jeez. Okay, thank you; good wishes that your internet wanderings bring you to less stressful sites in the future.
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Ok what the shit? 12 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
It’s not “cheating” if it’s known. There’s no subterfuge. This individual is just in a one-sided monogamous relationship for some reason. I’m sure there’s a name for it? They’re not exactly poly; I don’t know. *I* wouldn’t enter such a relationship. I’m one-at-a-time type of person and need my partner’s full focus. But he’s not getting cheated on and he’s not a cuckold in the strict historical sense. She’s definitely not seeing this other person without his knowledge.
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Does it autosend too ? 12 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
I meant it’s set up; all typos are possible but the reaction and subsequent is not how people do. It’s one of those pretend text exchanges. I was just acknowledging the joke by using a standard hashtag to note it.
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Somebody take her snacks 5 comments
What do you like and dislike. About your BF/GF? 8 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
I know it’s just the picture to go with the discussion question, but I like the idea that the cat is asking. Because that’s what we do, talk over things with our pets. They just listen attentively because you are their friend, and also you might give them brushing or treats. It’s very soothing.
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Very slick 4 comments
debbidownr
· 5 years ago
Stop stalking that poor girl. There are a million pharmacies. Please don’t use the fact that she has to work as a reason to force her to interact with you.
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More importantly, you’re also - shocking! - not required to have an opinion on other people. Try working on incorporating that fact into your reality.