Either you get something is problematic or you don’t. Your refusal to think is definitely a YOU problem. You might have a “snowflake” issue, although I think that’s a little rough, since I see you as lazy instead of helplessly fragile. Nonetheless, your inability to think is not a cause for me to stop doing so. Deal with it.

@unklethan If the term is derogatory to one gender, avoid it. It doesn’t have to do with characterizing people as you describe, it has to do with gendered name calling. It’s dismissive to only one particular group. Not good. Saying someone is ‘a riot’ (funny) or ‘a chip off the ole block’ (similar to a parent, almost always used for a son about their father, but not specifically gendered and also not derogatory in intent) is not dismissive. It’s not making someone non-human and part of a group that’s less than. I’m a woman. I’m proud to be a woman. I’m proud to be human. I don’t like gendered namecalling, which I know because I’ve had several chances to consider it. Thus, I have a specific response to it.
However, ethnic or any group namecalling is not cool either. Any shoving of someone into a box to be dismissed is an opportunity for them to be treated poorly and more especially to feel shut down or shut out! It’s not great. It’s not necessary. Don’t.

@thatguyyouknow “She” is not a putdown. “Bitch” is a putdown. It’s dehumanizing (literally, it’s not a term for humans) and specifically gendered as a putdown for women. Stop using it.

Don’t use gendered put-downs. It’s 2019

Ah, thanks!

Start a Meetup; go to events that interest you or at least won’t bore you to tears. It gets so much better if you just give it time.

They cry: Today’s culture is everyone is offended all the time!! No one can make jokes!! No one can even be themselves!! Thought police!!! Everyone just wants to be offended all the time!! How did I end up in this crazy world!!
It’s all just the same two sentences: I don’t like it when I’m not frequently told I’m special. I have an extremely low tolerance for feeling uncomfortable.
I feel like I’m pretty clear on why a group of people would resist change by building straw men and claiming it’s actually everyone else who are being the *real* snowflakes. What I don’t understand is why someone would admit to being part of this totally fake reality or even join it in the first place.

Redundancy

This is so great. I just had to show some appreciation.

Once you’ve gotten that far, you have two paths. If you’re controlling, you start trying to control others. If not, you start trying to see and meet people where they are. For me, it came to be that I found other people were doing stuff and it was interesting. I’m way more stacked up with skills to get along than when I tried to ‘make friends’ as a kid, so I’m building up the arsenal to be a highly skilled old person who can easily and without mistakes help people feel happy and accepted. That’s my whole deal. It will probably be my whole deal until I die. Except when I’m wasting time, backtracking, indulging in self-defeating behavior, and partaking of every mortal sin, of course! lol

You get bored of hating people, so you start finding them interesting instead.
I know this sounds preachy or bratty, but that’s my fr straight answer. You run your own life more, so you carve out space to do your own thing. Once you have that, you eventually get bored and start looking around outside it for good or interesting things.