I feel the same way. I am tall and bone-thin as well (annoyingly so, sometimes), but I do disagree with this somewhat. Chubbier girls have been ridiculed for much too long now, and still so. One of my best friends tried to kill herself, the bullying had gotten so awful. And so I believe that once the media stops advertising thin, bony girls as 'perfect,' once and for all, then there will be no need for posts like this, or even ones defending curvy girls. So if thee so pleases, I beg of thine better nature to take this post down. There will be no need for this. Thanks!
I respectfully disagree with your last three sentences. This is her (or his) post and her views that she believes. It's rude to say she should take down her post. It would be the same way if this was your post saying what your comment says.
Personally, I would give anything for her body. I want to be skinny, I want look pretty. And if other people have different or similar opinions, that's okay. Everyone thinks differently. And I agree it's unhealthy, but only if you take it too far.
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The media will never stop advertising skinny girls as perfect, they will never stop Trying to make as feel worse and worse about ourselves, insignificant. That doesn't mean that we can't be strong and ignore it all. The world doesn't want just one thing, we are not one being. Some people worship the models, and that's ok I guess for them, but if you do not like the idea of society's constant gossip, or the constant fight to be "perfect" then the only thing you can do is ignore it and do your own thing.
Guest, I agree with what you are saying, and it is deffo 100% the media's fault, but this post does have a point. Apparently it's socially acceptable to tell me to "eat a cheeseburger, goddammit, girl" but it's seen as bullying or mean to tell someone to "lay off the cheeseburgers". I'm just saying that it's a two way street, and neither should be acceptable.
I'm naturally skinny, and I eat all fucking day. I eat doritos, chocolate, dulce de leche, ice cream, pizza, everything. And I'm sick of people telling to skinny girls that they are anorexic. Even if they don't say it to me, I feel horrible about my body when stupid people do that, honestly.
loveprofessionally, i think that the reason why stupid people like that say skinny girls are anorexic is because for many years heavier girls have been ridiculized to be skinny, if that hadnt happened then there wouldnt exist neither anorexia nor bulimia and you wouldnt be called that way. You understand now? its all part of the same problem. Nobody cares how much you eat or how healthy you are, they just care how you look like
That is not a reason to ridiculize me for being skinny, nor someone else for being fat. I literally never in my life told someone to lose weight or to someone that she or he is fat. So why should I get so many people telling me to eat something, especially overweight people? I don't know.
Not every skinny girl is anorexic. Holy shit.
But, If I can see that you are Malnourished and weak and see more bone showing than usual, there has to be something wrong.
Anorexia is a serious disorder that has to be Diagnosed to the said person.
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Well said. I can't tell you the constant words shot at me saying I'm too skinny, or I need meat on my bones. Seriously? Does my weight really matter if I lead a healthy lifestyle? I don't under eat, I don't try to be skinny. We people were just born that way, it's simply genetics. If you want to change that, you can. But no one is pressuring you, or should be pressuring you. It's your body, your life.
Been down that road, I know it sucks. Years of therapy, nutritionists, cutting, drugs, suicide attempts, and nothing seems to work. I still hate my body but I try little things to make it ok.
Me too, but my mom doesn't know about Ana. I don't think I can ever make myself okay again. I just am too broken to fix.
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You can! Find someone you can trust and tell. It was so hard to tell my parents about cutting. Now I've been clean for over a year. You are never too broken to fix. Ana is very dangerous, and looking at others only makes it worse.
That's amazing, congrats!! It was hard. And I feel like I am, and I know. But it helps. Sort of... I still eat but I look at myself like I'm fat. :c (I am)
The ridiculous thing is, I know I'm thin. I just see myself as fat and want to get thinner.
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Yeah, the thing that helped me stop was 1) if I cut again I wouldn't be allowed to go to college anymore and 2) if I want to end my life I imagine my little brother at my funeral and how sad everyone would've. And instead of being 'thin' try seeing yourself as healthy :) that was my goal . It takes a lot to change, but remember that people care for you and you have the chance to try and change.
Thank you. I have a little brother also, and my mom and I had a huge discussion when she found out the second time, when I had hidden it for over a year. And I feel a little better, I guess, but I still get depressed a lot; my anxiety meds give that side effect. But I try, and I have been working out lately with my mom at the gym. Going tomorrow in fact.
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I completely agree with this. I am naturally very small and skinny, and I had issues in the past that made me unhealthily underweight. I was bullied to no end because of this, so if it's okay for someone to yell at me to eat more and ridicule me over my weight, how is that any less offensive than being called out on being overweight? Because if you are overweight, you automatically cannot ask what their weight is, but if you are skinny, it suddenly opens up every ones questions as to why you are skinny, do you eat enough, you must be anorexic, etc. While there may be eating disorders involved, it is NOT your business to be asking those questions in the first place.
Exactly! Saying "you're so skinny!" to a thin person is like saying "you're so fat!" to an overweight person. It's rude to call people fat, but not rude to call people skinny? Please.
I am fat and I hate hearing people say 'you're so skinny' to slimmer girls, and it does hurt when people call me fat, obese, or overweight but I try to move on and get over it, I've learnt that there will always be people to hurt your feelings, so if you're fat, skinny, curvy, bony, love your body no matter what, everyone is beautiful and don't let anyone tell you any different
Have you seen what she looks like in her latest show, compared to what she used to look like? Yeah sure hun, keep telling yourself that, 'naturally' skinny with a thigh gap the width of europe. "Gaunt" and "Skeletal" isn't natural. Have some respect for your body and stop starving yourself. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being skinny, but it's a bit hypocritical to say oh you can't tell me to gain weight when you clearly need it because you CLEARLY have a weight problem.
http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/model-cassi-van-den-dungen-has-hit-back-at-catwalk-criticism-about-her-weight/story-fni0cx4q-1226877633452
I'm naturally skinny, I eat reasonably healthily but I'll go for that chocolate bar and have never starved myself or even dieted because I know that with my body type I don't need to be concerned about my weight, I need to be healthy but not gain weight. However I've been bullied for years with people calling me anorexic and it hurts when people do that to you, I'm happy with my weight, I don't need it to change now get over yourselves. One of my friends actually is anorexic and it got to the point where she attempted to kill herself because so many people were teasing ME and saying that I had her illness because I'm skinny. People need to stop assuming that because you're skinny you're anorexic. Anorexia is a serious mental illness and you can't use it as a adjective- that's like saying "(s)he looks like (s)he's got cancer" because they look a bit sick or are wearing a beanie. Stop ridiculing mental illness, this is why so many people have trouble getting over it.
Some people can't help it either, people have disorders- other than eating disorders- that make them skinny or can make it impossible to get fat. I have one! But many people are born that way!
I think it's ridiculous how often people make jokes at my weight and they think it's okay because I'm skinny and "everyone wants to be skinny". My family is the most responsible. They're constantly nagging me to eat and I eat at least as much as some of the other people in my family do, but I'm the one who always gets jokes like "oh, if she sticks out her tongue and turns sideways she's a zipper" "if she closes one eye she looks like a needle". And the worst part is when they go so far as to "jokingly" call me fat, because clearly I'm not. It's not funny, even if it weren't hurtful it wouldn't be funny. Clearly /you/ don't even find it funny, you just want to make yourself feel better because you aren't as thin as me. I mean, they act like they're worried that I have a disorder but then they go and call me fat? Are you kidding me?
I have an odd problem - I'm curvy, but some bones (my ribs and hip bones especially) do stick out and make me look underweight if people see me the wrong way, so I've been ridiculed both ways. Honestly I just hope we can get to a point where we believe everyone that is healthy is beautiful. Unless you are dangerously overweight/underweight I don't think anyone should say anything - and even then I don't think people should ridicule others for not being perfect.
I wish you people would stop making this a debate. Fat people are fat. Skinny people are skinny. Simple as that. If you're fat, then I'm sorry to say that most of the world will not accept you. Sad truth but it is the truth. People just like skinny more. I mean It looks better to me honestly
I am a skinny and bony girl, and have been since I was a kid. I don't starve myself, I eat as much as I want, and I don't care about my weight. But I don't put weight on easily. Personnally, I remember hating my body when I was small, thinking that it was disgusting and un-natural, but I couldn't do anything about it, I mean, I can't eat much or I'll be sick, so my stomach stops me from eating too much. I agree that fat people were, some time ago, not seen very well, but now (where I live anyway) it is the other way round. The fat, even obese people are accepted and no one ever says anything about their body shape or what they eat. It is socially acceptable to tell someone that they are anorexic and that their body is disgusting (even though it's just the shadow of ribs, like, what's the big deal?) but you can never tell a fat person that they eat too much, never.
It's weird how much I can relate to this photo...
But, If I can see that you are Malnourished and weak and see more bone showing than usual, there has to be something wrong.
Anorexia is a serious disorder that has to be Diagnosed to the said person.
http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/model-cassi-van-den-dungen-has-hit-back-at-catwalk-criticism-about-her-weight/story-fni0cx4q-1226877633452
It's weird how much I can relate to this photo...