The thing about like verbal bullying tho is when someone is getting bullied the only way to truly stop it is to not pay attention to it and not let stupid people get to you. Physical is different. And although this is obviously wrong to say to anyone like no not a good way to help people it still has a truth to it even if its a little harsh. Idk I've never been severely bullied before but I have been bullied and it never going to stop someone is always not going to like you, and at some point you have to stop caring and focus on the people that do care about you even if that's only a few people.
Ugh I hate what a giant society of coddling wimps we have become. And you get a participation trophy and you get a participation trophy! Everyone is special! I weep for my children's generation.
I do think that people need to develop a thick skin. No one is going to pass through this life without criticism or meet only nice people. But there's nothing wrong with telling people to treat others with respect and not bully. Were trying to create a society that that's tolerant and respectful of others, rather then blaming those that are bullied and telling them to change. I can't see how teaching people not to bully is a bad thing. It's about stoping the damage bullying causes before it happens, rather then just treating the problems it creates after the fact.
It doesn't matter what people do. There will always be bullies. Time would be better spent teaching children to not be victims. To teach them to stand up for themselves. By constantly protecting someone and assuring them that they are always special isn't preparing them for life. When you get into the real world, you are not going to get a trophy for showing up. A gold star because you tried. It is creating a society of spineless victims and deeming that behavior socially acceptable. The majority of bullies themselves are cowards who need someone to stand up to them. I'm absolutely anti-bullies, however I feel that this 'campaign' is wasting its efforts in the wrong direction.
Not everyone can stand up for themselves. And blaming a victim and saying their the ones that need to change, is the problem. Bullying is not a victims fault. And you'll notice I did acknowledge that people do need to accept that the world is full of jerks and learn to deal with that.
Blaming the victim removes blame from the aggressor. Should people stand up to bullies? Absolutely. Should people work to not let other people bother them? Yes. But I would rather have a society that focuses on tolerance and respect rather than telling people to "not be a victim". A bully creates the victim, not the other way around.
I've never been bullied. But my 2 year old has already come up against ridicule and hurtful behavior by just being different. She has Down syndrome. What should she do exactly, to not be a victim?
They are. The Columbine shooters were actually not kids who were bullied till they snapped. One was even popular. But he had narsististic personality disorder and was a sociopath, the other had severe depression was heavily influenced by the other.
Not to mention the problem lies more with the ever-growing mentality that if you lose a fistfight, you have to come back with a fucking GUN to avenge your pitiful ego.
When I was a lad, all you had to do is land a few good hits and your bully would soon realize that it wasn't worth it even if they could consistently "win" the fight. And if you couldn't manage that, there was always the option of taking self-defense classes.
But I'm Dutch, so I am not perfect in English. but I'm trying :)
Blaming the victim removes blame from the aggressor. Should people stand up to bullies? Absolutely. Should people work to not let other people bother them? Yes. But I would rather have a society that focuses on tolerance and respect rather than telling people to "not be a victim". A bully creates the victim, not the other way around.
I've never been bullied. But my 2 year old has already come up against ridicule and hurtful behavior by just being different. She has Down syndrome. What should she do exactly, to not be a victim?
When I was a lad, all you had to do is land a few good hits and your bully would soon realize that it wasn't worth it even if they could consistently "win" the fight. And if you couldn't manage that, there was always the option of taking self-defense classes.