Yeah I meant definitely. And I'm not bitter about it but try to express your love to your significant other while your parent is watching an glistening to everything you do. When we forst started courting we couldn't even say "I love you" to one another and always had to keep something between us.
I was expecting the parents to back off after the marriage. I never thought of the fact that they might still be controlled that way after that. If the parents continue dominating your life after marriage, it will not last long. But I doubt your parents would allow divorce, so life will be hell. After marriage, immediately stop taking their shit, or you will regret it and find it harder to break out of this in the future.
Actually, this makes me think they've never been able to know more about each other, and that's not a great sign. However I feel like a douche for analyzing the flaws in someone else's relationship so I'm gonna say, "just go for it"
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Courting is a religious type of dating where there is a chaperone up until the couple is married. The parents will back off when their son/daughter marries his/her spouse, but until then the entire point of courting is that they are chaperoning and making sure the two remain abstinent. In this day and age, it is usually by choice of the couple themselves that they wish to be courted and chaperoned in order to help themselves remain abstinent.
Itssonotjacky you described our way of dating/courting perfectly and I appreciate that. It is a religious thing and I have a older sister who courted as well. My parents were fine once she was married and backed off her. They just want to make sure we stay pure. It's part of our religion. It's mine and my fiancée's decision as well. We decided when we first started courting that we wanted to save ourselves till marriage. It is my personal opinion that a person stay a virgin till they're married but as I said that is MY opinion. Everyone should follow their own opinion in that matter:)
Sorry my computer sent the message before I was done. Sent my reply finally:)
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Ahhh okay I see :) I respect that you're courting! It shows true dedication in love that two people can recognize that true love doesn't have to mean sex. I hope you have a happy marriage!!!
Ah, it's a religious thing! That makes sense. Though, as a Christian, I'd LOVE to see some statistics on just how many religious people partake in such a meaningless gesture in developed countries.
Btw, let's not bullshit each other. This isn't about sex. It's about the privacy and intimacy of two people on their way to adulthood. If you haven't raised your kids right by this age, all the chaperoning in the world isn't going to save them. All this is doing is shitting on their chances of becoming a self-sufficient human being.
Btw, let's not bullshit each other. This isn't about sex. It's about the privacy and intimacy of two people on their way to adulthood. If you haven't raised your kids right by this age, all the chaperoning in the world isn't going to save them. All this is doing is shitting on their chances of becoming a self-sufficient human being.