But a lot of girls also have to be emotionally strong because if they start to cry or show some sort of negative emotion, they're immediately written off as a 'whiney bitch'.
yeah, a couple days ago there was a girl and someone commented
"you're cute but you don't have a butt"
Really? Really? She needs a huge ass just to be socially accepted?
People seem to forget that women aren't the only ones being pressured by media. Larger boys get made fun of just as much as larger girls. Boys with smaller penises get made fun of just as much as girls with smaller breasts.
Us girls aren't the only ones with self esteem issues....
Yeah i understand that guy joke about other dudes not being enough, it probably does hurt them emotionally and they hide it. I mean, but that's kinda indirect, you can do it directly to a girl.
still, it doesn't matter because it does set expectations that you can't reach because you weren't made that way. We both have it pretty hard, and we just make it harder for each other.
Maybe but women are persecuted MUCH more worldwide as well in countless ways.. Men aren't. And we must admit women are definitely portrayed more sexually than men in the media. Plus there are countless studies showing that women are treated and paid differently in the work place. And also, how often do men have to be afraid when they walk around alone? How often are they "asking for" sexual harassment when they wear something? How often are they trafficked into sex slavery or taken as child brides. How often are they forced to stay at home because theY can't drive a car. How often are women's strengths (both mentally and physically) looked at like less even if they are amazing? Women in the world are literally PHYSICALLY and mentally and emotionally affected every day simply for being a women.
Men have difficult lives too, but being a "Ken" is NOT as difficult as being a "Barbie".
Excuse me? I'm not saying men are worth any less than women. I think we are completely equal and both genders should be treated with respect. I respect men and know that there is good and bad in both genders. I'm just saying that in many countries worldwide and in countless different ways, sometimes womens' lack of rights and respect and freedom can result in serious issues for them. I never said I was a feminist and I am NOT a sexist. I believe we should be EQUAL but pointed out the ways we weren't.
That's what a feminist is, thinking we should be equal. Society has just taken those people who claim to be feminists and arent to be the face of feminism.
Both are difficult in different ways. How stupid to compare one genders sufferings to the other's. Seriously whoever posted this was looking for an argument.
In terms of the media and social pressure both genders get slammed. Both genders have sever body image issues but males have another pressure which restricts them from speaking up as this can make them seem weak. Also girls are expected to talk about there feeling and show emotions on these topics but when they don't they get called stuck up or rigid. Everyone is so concerned with the way they look and this is creating a superficial society. Who cares if you are slightly over weight, as long as you are healthy and fit that's all that matters. Who cares if your skins isn't perfect, it's still encasing your organs and what not , isn't it? Who cares if your nose crooked, you can still breath. Society has forgotten what are bodies were originally for, to live, yes we like to look good bug long as you are happy and comfortable with who you are don't let anybody else's opinion swat your view in yourself
1) People don't expect you to wear makeup (on the other hand you have to cut your hair more often, but also spend less time shampooing it and stuff)
2) Your metabolism is better, which means you can workout less and eat more to be in good shape (but you're expected to be skinnier and more muscular than us, I admit)
3) Most women don't want a Ken. Kens are too fabricated and too girly for us. We just want a normal guy with normal looks, good health and a sense of humor. A lot of guys I know, though (and also a lot of guys on the internet), prefer a pretty face before everything else, so there you have the difference. Although the pressure of the media is the same on both genders.
I agree with mostly the third point. It's also good to point out, though, that not all guys are just dressing for girls any more than girls are just dressing for guys. They want to feel good about themselves, and they want other guys to think they're cool.
Guy's metabolism varies and it's important to remember that the stick-thin guys aren't thought of as attractive either. I'm not super hot or anything, but a guy who does the same things I do would fit the body image even less. Remember that guys suffer from eating disorders too.
Lastly, let me tell you a story: I'm nineteen years old in a week. I have a job as a hostess at a quality restaurant. I have a girlfriend, and I've had guys ask me out several times. I wore make-up once, to a family event, and that was extreme goth make-up to freak my family out (it was almost halloween). No one has ever suggested that I start wearing make-up except my own mother.... I don't even use blush, or cover up, or mascara. Nothing. *shrugs*
True. Too skinny is just as unattractive as too fat, for both genders. I'm 17 years old and I don't wear make-up either, nor any of these things you listed. I wear absolutely nothing on my face, just like you do. Though my social life has met less success than yours, I think. But still, I've seen guys go nuts over a girl with a ton of make-up on her face, looking almost like a doll. What's funny is that they later tell you that they prefer the natural look before a girl with lots of make-up. Unsure what to make of it, I just guessed they think I'm breaking a bloody social rule by not wearing a fuckload of make-up and that by natural look they mean that thing where you spend hours applying make-up to look like you're not wearing any. *shrugs as well*
And I've seen girls go nuts over a guy who has tons of make-up on his face, but then, I was in theater for a long time. I've also seen guys who go nuts over girls who wear none, or hardly any.
Just because people have it harder somewhere else doesn't mean this isn't a legitimate concern. We wouldn't ignore children who are being neglected just because children in other places are being abused.
I don't pretend to know everything, but the point I'm making is that telling people that others have it worse solves nothing and just makes people feel that they don't matter. If you would like to raise awareness, don't do it by saying others don't matter. Do it by raising awareness, and support everyone who has a problem. I know that things are bad there, but this kind of comment doesn't help anyone.
I don't think they were trying to make out our problems are pathetic in comparison, (they are) but they still matter. They're just saying it's not just as hard being a guy in less developed countries in the Middle East or Africa. You misunderstood.
... It seems like you could probably guess there was going to be a debate in the comments, if you don't want to read the debate in the comments, maybe don't click on the comments.
"you're cute but you don't have a butt"
Really? Really? She needs a huge ass just to be socially accepted?
Us girls aren't the only ones with self esteem issues....
Breast are out in the open, and the media takes advantage of that.
still, it doesn't matter because it does set expectations that you can't reach because you weren't made that way. We both have it pretty hard, and we just make it harder for each other.
Men have difficult lives too, but being a "Ken" is NOT as difficult as being a "Barbie".
2) Your metabolism is better, which means you can workout less and eat more to be in good shape (but you're expected to be skinnier and more muscular than us, I admit)
3) Most women don't want a Ken. Kens are too fabricated and too girly for us. We just want a normal guy with normal looks, good health and a sense of humor. A lot of guys I know, though (and also a lot of guys on the internet), prefer a pretty face before everything else, so there you have the difference. Although the pressure of the media is the same on both genders.
Guy's metabolism varies and it's important to remember that the stick-thin guys aren't thought of as attractive either. I'm not super hot or anything, but a guy who does the same things I do would fit the body image even less. Remember that guys suffer from eating disorders too.
Lastly, let me tell you a story: I'm nineteen years old in a week. I have a job as a hostess at a quality restaurant. I have a girlfriend, and I've had guys ask me out several times. I wore make-up once, to a family event, and that was extreme goth make-up to freak my family out (it was almost halloween). No one has ever suggested that I start wearing make-up except my own mother.... I don't even use blush, or cover up, or mascara. Nothing. *shrugs*