I'm an adult male and don't understand how any self respecting female could think that book is anything other than rape fantasy. What makes it ok? That he is incredibly wealthy? They literally have a website where you can guess a quote from either the rapist in the books or a serial killer.
Because if you actually read the books they are both in love with each other and nothing is done where she is uncomfortable. He has issues he needs to work through but meeting her and loving her helps him to do that. People take clips of it out of context and say he raped her. She wanted him as much as he wanted her.
I honestly don't believe you in that regard. Here is an example of what im speaking about: http://www.upworthy.com/6-real-quotes-from-fifty-shades-that-could-make-you-rethink-how-you-feel-about-it
This is NOT a loving relationship. This is physical and mental abuse. This is NOT love.
"But but but you don't understand, he had a rough up bringing and wasnt loved"
I spit on that bullshit excuse. It is a mentally and physically demeaning relationship and in no way should that be misconstrued as love.
Uhm people fight. Sometimes it's bad. I read the whole books, curious to see something based on "rape" being so popular. Again, you are taking it out of context. How is porn any better? Guys watch that all the time and don't get hated on it. I love a book with a story line and an actual relationship and suddenly I'm less of a woman?
Yes people fight in relationships, but in any HEALTHY relationship this doesn't happen. My whole argument is my complete and utter disbelief that something of this nature could become so mind-numbingly popular. If you click the link above and see #2 she clearly states "NO". If you were invloved intimately with a man and began to feel uncomfortable and expressed that...but he didnt stop because he was "in love" that makes it ok?
In regards to the porn statement, i know PLENTY of women who watch porn. Except for certain and completely fucked up genres, it is between consenting adult(s). Not with someone against their will and wishes.
If you as a consenting adult, approve of the behavior exhibited in the book and enjoy its content that is your right. I simply dont understand it as gentleman.
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I don't know why you have downvotes, boilermakergt. I thought you made a great argument against the books and did so in a respectful manner.
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it's okay, you guys. We all have preferences and it's only natural that they don't always coincide with those of someone else.
In the books they use a safe word and he or she stops whenever it is said. That is true, thepinktrex, but I'm being made to feel like I'm less of a person because of it.
This is NOT a loving relationship. This is physical and mental abuse. This is NOT love.
"But but but you don't understand, he had a rough up bringing and wasnt loved"
I spit on that bullshit excuse. It is a mentally and physically demeaning relationship and in no way should that be misconstrued as love.
In regards to the porn statement, i know PLENTY of women who watch porn. Except for certain and completely fucked up genres, it is between consenting adult(s). Not with someone against their will and wishes.
If you as a consenting adult, approve of the behavior exhibited in the book and enjoy its content that is your right. I simply dont understand it as gentleman.