Just because someone does something stupid, doesn't mean you should lose all respect for them. People hurt themselves like this, not because they feel sad, the do this because they feel nothing. They have fallen so far into depression, sadness, and lonelyness, they literally cannot cry because of it. The body has adjusted and numbed. When someone cuts their wrists, it's because feeling pain seems better than feeling nothing. Its not a good thing, it is very bad, but the real issue is people's attitudes about it. Trust me, that girl on the train with scars on her arms knows she is a mess, you reminding her is only going to perpetuate a cycle of evil and hate that drove her there in the first place.
You do realize it becomes a habit right? It's near damn impossible to "just stop" I've lost count of how many times I tried to quit only to relapse a month later. The only reason I've been clean since February is because I made a promise to someone who loved me. I want to do it every night but I don't because I made a promise to him. And he doesn't even love me anymore. You don't know what goes through our minds to make us want to hurt ourselves. We don't do it to receive pity, we do to release emotion. We know its harmful but we just. Can't. Stop.
I never said to "just stop".
I'm saying "only she can stop".
Habits can be broken. But I can't do it for you, and I'm not gonna try.
I can't afford to worry about everyone's problems, and I can't respect anyone who intentionally and unproductively hurts themselves. Sorry, but I'm not.
Romanticizing and glorifying self-harm is the most disgusting thing. To me, it is disrespectful to those who truly struggle with it. It isn't, and won't ever be a good thing. Please don't ever fight pain with pain, there are people who love and care about you always. Self hate isn't fixed with blood or scars, and it never will be. I know it can be addicting, but the sooner people stop, the sooner things can improve. But this won't improve if people keep joking around or making it sound beautiful and glorious. It's not okay.
why do people do that though? saying depression and self-harm is beautiful or something like that...it's not. It hurts. It's a mess. It's not how anybody should live their life at all. This isn't the way to cheer depressed people up. There's only one way they can do that, and that's by realizing it themselves that life can be better. This is like saying it's okay. It's not.
Exactly. Do we romanticise cancer? Breaking bones? Other diseases? No! Because they're recognised as problems that should be fixed, and mental illnesses are the same.
If we were saying the same about stretch marks on women who've had children that would be different. Self harm is bad and technically you didn't earn your stripes, you put them on
UNPOPULAR OPINION:
This post isn't necessarily promoting self harm, it's trying to let people who have previously self harmed know that they shouldn't have to feel ashamed and cover up their scars. Needless to say, they could have worded it better, but I really don't think it was made with the intention to promote self harm. I have an experience with cutting, and I've been clean for a really long time, but I still have some scars that probably aren't going away anytime soon. These posts to me aren't triggering or romanticizing it, but they're a reminder that I shouldn't have to hide my arms or thighs/ I shouldn't be ashamed of my body. I DO NOT believe in any kind of romanticism of self harm, but I do believe in encouraging people to not be ashamed of their body. Saying that "You have earned your stripes" is pretty fucking stupid though.
I hate how much self harm and mental illnesses are being romanticised. It's sending the wrong image to the world.
Coming from experience, this stuff sucks. And seeing it being glorified so often is sickening.
Anxiety is not 'cute'
Depression is not 'romantic'
Scars are not 'beautiful'
Anorexia is not 'sexy'
And there are so many more issues that I'm not addressing here.
These are serious problems real people have. And it fucking sucks.
I agree. I know people who absolutely hate their scars and would go to great lengths, for example get an entire sleeve of intricate tattoos, to cover them. I myself would do the same. You don't want scars. You just don't want them.
I agree that this comment is STUPID. Self harm is never okay, never to be praised but something that to be addressed so that those who do self harm can be helped/understood/counseled.
Back in middle school I told my best friend that I thought it was dumb & stupid for her to cut. My best friend. I still feel like shit for it to this day. I guess at that time I didn't understand why people cut or how your life could be so bad that you would wanna hurt yourself. I learned that the hard way...for a year & 3 months. I've been clean since Christmas Eve though & have completely stopped for myself. Not for my parents or friends but for myself. Bottom line? Please don't judge or say things about cutting if you haven't experienced it yourself or have had others in your life go through it. & to all the current cutters out there: Please. PLEASE. Don't destroy your life before it gets better.
That's true. There's a fine line between understanding that self harm is the result of something horrible and glorifying it/ saying that people who cut are heroes. I myself have done it and even now I can say that the top picture pisses me off because it makes people who cut look like heroes and I did not feel like one back then. It's not courageous and heroic. It was cowardly and made my situation so much worse. Therefore, people need to stop glorifying it and make it seem like a brave battle, because it something far beyond their understanding.
(look at the picture in the background. Can you even get stretch marks on your forearm?) also no. Stretch marks are completely natural and they're like natural lightning tattoos. Besides, you don't choose to get them,
I used to self harm, and posts like this pissed em off. Still do. I've still got my scars, they are not stripes, they're fucking embarrassing. For a while I couldn't believe I actually did it. But everyone breaks sometimes, some fall harder than others. I'm okay with posts that say you'll get better, because you will, eventually, it all gets better, but I feel like these posts are from people who self harm for attention, and they attract people who do so. It isn't "cool" its not cute, its BAD. And that's all it'll ever be. I don't judge people for what they do, unless what they're doing is lying, or breaking the law.
Forgot, I can't sign in.. This is WhySoSerious, here.. Having sign in issues, anywho.. Yeah..
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The comments on this post give me so much faith in FunSubstance. The comments here give me so much faith in humanity.
We may all be fucked up in our own way, but we are so intelligent and supportive and each and every one of us can say the right thing when it's needed.
I'm feeling kinda proud of my community right now.
I feel the same way every time I log on here. All of y'all are so nice! And so supportive :)
I can't tell you how many times any one of you has helped me, possibly even saved my life at some point.
I feel blessed to be a part of this little family.
You can get stretch marks from a number of things. Such as gaining muscles, growing in height, growing breasts or an ass, and even getting pregnant.
Calm yourself before you go judging.
Anything less, and I lose any respect I may have had for you.
I will not make her problems mine. I will not attack her. She knows it's bad, only she can stop.
I'm saying "only she can stop".
Habits can be broken. But I can't do it for you, and I'm not gonna try.
I can't afford to worry about everyone's problems, and I can't respect anyone who intentionally and unproductively hurts themselves. Sorry, but I'm not.
This post isn't necessarily promoting self harm, it's trying to let people who have previously self harmed know that they shouldn't have to feel ashamed and cover up their scars. Needless to say, they could have worded it better, but I really don't think it was made with the intention to promote self harm. I have an experience with cutting, and I've been clean for a really long time, but I still have some scars that probably aren't going away anytime soon. These posts to me aren't triggering or romanticizing it, but they're a reminder that I shouldn't have to hide my arms or thighs/ I shouldn't be ashamed of my body. I DO NOT believe in any kind of romanticism of self harm, but I do believe in encouraging people to not be ashamed of their body. Saying that "You have earned your stripes" is pretty fucking stupid though.
Coming from experience, this stuff sucks. And seeing it being glorified so often is sickening.
Anxiety is not 'cute'
Depression is not 'romantic'
Scars are not 'beautiful'
Anorexia is not 'sexy'
And there are so many more issues that I'm not addressing here.
These are serious problems real people have. And it fucking sucks.
We may all be fucked up in our own way, but we are so intelligent and supportive and each and every one of us can say the right thing when it's needed.
I'm feeling kinda proud of my community right now.
I can't tell you how many times any one of you has helped me, possibly even saved my life at some point.
I feel blessed to be a part of this little family.
Calm yourself before you go judging.