You know how when you ask your parents, "What should I be when I grow up?" And somehow the answer is always, "Whatever you want, as long as you enjoy it."? WELL YOU KNOW WHAT? People who aren't happy with who they are, should be able to change. If you can change your personality so quickly based on what people think, then you can be the gender you want to be. When I was 12 or so, people forced their views on me so much I thought gays were the scum of the Earth and if you're gay you have your ticket to hell. Tough. They'll just make it hotter.
ALso, some parents just find it really hard to deal with the transition and don't know how to react. They feel they are losing a son or daughter, and often this doesn't mean they love them any less, it just means they're new at this as well
I just don't understand why. I mean I'm not trying to be hateful so maybe some one can shed some light on this for me. People everywhere aren't happy with themselves, including me, but suck it up and move on. We hate the way we look, we feel, we act, our abilities, and whatever, but I never felt the need or want to do something as drastic as this. So why? I don't get it.
Right I get that and I'm not trying to be closed minded or anything. I'm just trying to understand. I didn't think my question warranted dislikes to oblivion. I thought I was polite with my question
I'm sincerely sorry if my reply came out as rude or patronizing, I wasn't trying to be. I recognize the need to understand something you don't, I feel the same way about many things. I didn't feel like I was in a position to properly explain the "why" and so tried providing a helpful link.
its not about "oh i don't like my nose" or "i hate having to wear pants" its about waking up everyday and not being in the body you expect. Imagine you wake up tomorrow in another genders body...wouldn't you feel wrong.....this is have trans people feel from the day they are aware of their bodies. They don't hate men or women they dont hate themselves its just they were born into the wrong body. In the end how does it affect you if they change sexes? It like getting angry at someone for cutting of their hair...it's their body, their choice, lets not make it any harder for them.
Im not angry at all. Just trying to understand. If I woke up a woman I think I'd just live my life as a woman. Sometimes you get dealt shitty cards but the game stops for no one. I mean if my son or daughter suddenly told me they are having a sex change, I'd be taken aback. I wouldn't know what to think. I don't know the biology and science behind sex changes either, so I don't know what it all entails or anything.
No this is wrong. The parent doesn't care what gender it is but they do care if that baby fails to realize that he was born a dude and he was meant to be a dude. Now if Justin was just gay but still understood that he was a man and didn't try to play that gender confusion bullshit then his parents would probably be more accepting of him. Once a dude always a dude weather you want to be or not. Go ahead and bring on the hate but I do wanna hear your guys opinions cuz I feel like I'm the only one on this site that feels this way
What if they were born a hermaphrodite though? Then the doctors and parents decided which sex to choose. That could lead to confusion about which gender you were really meant to be
you bring up a good point. I guess if you're a hermaphrodite you would just go with whatever you feel you are. But what I'm saying is if you're born 100% male or 100% female then that's what you are meant to be
No one is really 100% either gender, hormones vary in amounts from person to person which can sometimes influence various things
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· 9 years ago
Honestly, what benefit would they get if they did indeed 'play that gender confusion bullshit?' What motivation would they have to PRETEND they were born in the wrong body? I mean, really, it seems pretty obvious it's not a pretence, but something that's actually there :)
(To me at least)
I don't get people like thatonequeerophobe either, I mean how tf is it their business how someone else defines him/herself? Do they actually think all those equality demanding women and sex-freaks are just out there to try and annoy or even fool them? Is it they cannot be sure that drunken blowjob in the hickey bars loo was given by a "real" chick? Is it an insult to their imaginary friend (god or allah or whoever)? Are they just too lazy to adjust from the 19th to the 21st century?
if my son one day came to me and said he was actually a woman trapped in a mans body and he was gonna get surgery done to change his body to that of a woman's, it would bother me
Sounds like you need to talk to transgender people, you are making huge assumptions from little or wrong information. I hope you can come to accept the reality of transgender people as you have with homosexual people. its a hard world out there, don't be the one making it harder.
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· 9 years ago
No. No. Just no. One, nobody is born 100% male or female, because of the way we are developed and because of slight defects in our genomes. And being transgender is caused because of improper emotive secretion, and is not ever a phase or a cry for attention. And who are you to tell others how to feel and think?! These people feel completely uncomfortable in their own identity and body, and we have to be accepting and allow them to change to what makes them happy. And it is never your business what people.identify as. If your kid said they were uncomfortable with their gender, note, not sexual identity, that's different, what you should do is just be accepting. And be happy they trust you enough to say this. And have a talk so you can understand their feelings to the best of your ability. Don't limit what you believe is real to what you can see. Just because you've never felt that way doean't mean that feeling doesn't exist.
And now I realized I just have to say one sentence:
I am Daniel Öman.
It feels weird doing it on here when you are Daniel otherwise
Hmm...
Can I call you Chelsea? :D
Simple as that
http://www.gendernetwork.com/GenderIdentity.html#.VZv-wPlVikp
(To me at least)