I dont. There are some ppl who are somehow always in trouble and always ready to take any help they can get without much interest in giving back. I'm all for helping ppl but I also think you should consider the person you'd be helping and if they have a reputation for being users. It could come back to bite you.
yeah but.. to use it as a life guide... would iimply to never help anyone... while i would agree if someone appears to be using you you need draw back... i think we need to always help our real friends, or even people who are not our friends...
perhaps #3 should just be reworded to say something like, learn to cut your loses when a friend turns out to be a user, but maybe worded more eloquently.
actually the golden rule is probably dead on, because i would like people to help me out unless it puts them out... so i would help others out unless it puts me out... which would add up, i think, to stop helping people when they become mooches.
Yeah and there's also a point where helping a person like that is mistaken kindness. They need to learn to stand on their own. Doing whats best for them may be bringing it to their attention and helping them see a better way rather than continually bailing them out. I feel like that's in line with the golden rule.
this is in large part why people notice things like, people won't always help a guy sitting in his broken car, but if someones pushing a car alone where there are other people, someone will almost always help. we always feel better giving help to people who are at least trying to help themselves.
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