Horrible Isn't It?

what? no, you can easily love a person who does not love you back... healthy love is mutual.

I dunno...I hesitate to call that love because love in that situation can very easily turn to obsession. Yes you can have a one-sided love, but it turns rather easily.

i dunno, i feel like the only times i've ever walked the obsession line is when someone is playing me and pretending to have similar emotions... while its hard to stop thinking about the people who never loved you back, the normal person doesn't go stalker or anything, you only hear much about the people crossing the lines, because everyone else goes home and eats ice cream and gets drunk and works on moving on quietly without a lot of public fuss.

But is that really love? That sounds more like having a crush.

sooo its either its a crush or if its love you act crazy? silliness. you do not have to be crazy for it to be love... granted some of your *thoughts* are probably crazy... if its love, the emotion never really leaves, it just eventually stops being a surface thought. my point is merely that you can be in love, it can be one sided, and its plenty of people who arent looney about it.

Alright, let's start over. Let's first quantify "crush", "obsession", and "love".
A crush is "a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable or inappropriate"
Love is "a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person"
Obsession: " someone or something that a person thinks about constantly or frequently"
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By these definitions, love and obsession are very similar. I am of the strong belief that a one-sided love is very close to obsession because both are a strong emotional/mental inclination towards someone. I suppose you're right, love doesn't technically have to be mutual, but if it isn't it's very close to obsession.
Can we think of obsession as an extreme love? If so, I believe that a one-sided love is very inclined to become obsession because all that one-way affection can very easily take a toll on the mind.

For example, imagine someone in a one-way love where they keep giving time and money and help to a person, but they don't get anything in return. That person is constantly trying to find ways to be around their loved one, and thus their mind turns to obsession because the planning of what their next interaction will be takes up so much of their mind. In a mutual love, both people are seeking to be around each other, so there's minimal effort involved in trying to figure out how to stick yourself in their company.

honestly mutual love can be obsession too, love and obsession are not exclusive, i think its obsession when you cannot let a person you love go when its over.. not as in not think of them, but dwell on it too much, keep chasing them too long, its like, you do the normal stuff we do when love fucks us up, but you do it TOO much.

Yes agreed. But by your point, we can conclude that MOST one-sided loves are actually obsessions. Yes?

no, i must still disagree on that, i think obsession is likely the minority, its an unhealthy thing and you only hear about the things that are unhealthy, not the norm which is to fall in love and not always be loved back.