This is so true. And strict parents lead to sneaky kids. Like, I bet if my parents hadn't been as overprotective, and strict, I probably wouldn't be able to steal as easily as I do, or lie my way out of any sort a issue I have.
Which is actually quite useful for acting, as I've discovered.
i always thought i was a bad liar until i realized how often and easily i could lie to my parents. When parents are more strict and overprotective, there is less trust and connection between them and children. The kids quickly learn to lie to avoid a (maybe unnecesarily) severe punishment.
I once snuck out of the house to meet up with some friends and I left the door wide open. I convinced them that I couldn't sleep and had to take a quick walk. I was only grounded for a week because it was "irresponsible to not check to make sure that the house was locked up"
I agree with thatweirdbookworm. I have absolutely no connection with my parents. Like, I used to lie so I wouldn't get into trouble, then they'd punish me for lying, and what i'd done. To this day I still can't talk to either of them. Although, I have never felt guilty for lying. Like, I'll feel like shit for lying to a sorta-friend, or even a teacher I don't even like, but I have never once felt bad for lying to my parents.
The worst part is they don't even know me. Or is it the best part? I dunno. when im around my parents, I pretend to be everything they want, Obedient, clever, normal. its harder to lie to my friends, because they know everything about me.
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· 9 years ago
I feel like if you have to lie about it maybe you shouldn't have done it. If my children do something they're not supposed to and lie about it yes they will be punished for both. If they are honest they will still be punished but it will probably be a lesser punishment. It really depends on what is done
Somethings are bad and should be punished. But sometimes i lie because I did less than well on an school assignment and don't want to get a bad punishment because of one bad grade when i usually do better
Ok this is one place where I totally disagree. I am a straight A student, but if I have a poor grade in a class I tell them asap. And they usually help me to bring it back up
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· 9 years ago
I'm not going to give a bad punishment to my kids because of a low grade. My daughters math grade needs to be brought up and she wants a pet hamster. Well guess who gets a hamster when her math grades rise.
In a way, perhaps. I wouldn't know if I was born a pretty good liar or if I became one out of necessity. However, with protective parents (like my ones) it's best to never lie except when it's really fucking necessary. It sways them into a feeling of safety. It also really helps that people are inclined to hear what they want ot hear so if you tell them that they might doubt it but they'll eat at themselves, like, "that's my kid, I have to trust them, they've always been so responsible, always so honest, fuck, surely they wouldn't start lying now, right?"
Also, always mix in half-truths. Lies based on truth are the best ones. And finally, always deny, deny and deny. If you budge once, you're done forever. Deny it to the hell and back, eventually they'll start thinking they might be wrong, it's how people are wired to think. We always want to believe what we want it to be true. Never underestimate that self-decieving bit of human nature.
Now, I'm not arguing with the post, but the human beings who have screwed me over the worst in this life were snarky highschool girls whose mothers stood by and taught them to lie like a double agent to get what they want, and that if they get away with it, they deserve to, because they are goddesses. And if they didn't get away with it, shake the bewbs and lie some more. This is valid.
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· 9 years ago
The best lies are always mixed with the truth, I've learned. Aaand don't overdo the details, though you do have to add in some.
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· 9 years ago
And if you're lying when someone ask a question don't repeat the question
Also, figure out your "tells". If you know what gives you away when you lie, work on ways to hide them.
I've discovered that you should also create fake "tells". Like, one of my real "tells" is that I'll get goose bumps when I actually lie, but I've made it seem that I'll put my hair to one shoulder, or look at my nails I'm lying, so when I'm telling a lie, it doesn't look like one.
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Which is actually quite useful for acting, as I've discovered.
The worst part is they don't even know me. Or is it the best part? I dunno. when im around my parents, I pretend to be everything they want, Obedient, clever, normal. its harder to lie to my friends, because they know everything about me.
Also, always mix in half-truths. Lies based on truth are the best ones. And finally, always deny, deny and deny. If you budge once, you're done forever. Deny it to the hell and back, eventually they'll start thinking they might be wrong, it's how people are wired to think. We always want to believe what we want it to be true. Never underestimate that self-decieving bit of human nature.
I've discovered that you should also create fake "tells". Like, one of my real "tells" is that I'll get goose bumps when I actually lie, but I've made it seem that I'll put my hair to one shoulder, or look at my nails I'm lying, so when I'm telling a lie, it doesn't look like one.