LindsMolinari

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Artist Reimagines dogs as RPG classes 42 comments
lindsmolinari · 22 weeks ago
okay look there's only as much as i can do to try and instill some sense into you, not being your mother and all but seriously: before you get any sort of a new dog, do some research and make sure you raise it right. take it to some dog school and generally make sure you don't bring up an anxiety-ridden, disobedient animal. it will be dangerous both to you and innocent people around you.
dogs are NOT toys for you to push to limits and see what they're capable off. you seem like someone who would like to see your dog mauling something while blood and bones fly around and, well, that tends to get dangerous at some point. ever considered taking up a job at the butcher's? you could put your passions to some good use there, perhaps?
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lindsmolinari · 22 weeks ago
what i find the hardest is to balance on one side the awareness of my own worth as a pretty empathic, thoughful, emotionally sane person and on the other side the fact that i also am only human with flaws and issues which make me, too, difficult to live with. on one side i feel i /deserve/ someone equally "terrific" and advanced as myseld while on the other i feel like i'm not entitled to be so demanding because i am, just like everyone else, a pretty miserable companion with a lot of negative traits.
so i'm stuck wondering "do i deserve better or should i /settle/ for less-than-ideal as i am not some great catch either"?
so sorry i got you into this highly philosophical debate, i realise it's kind of hard to reply anything remotely satisfying or relevant to questions like these. although, to be honest, you're doing really well in that regard so far.
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lindsmolinari · 22 weeks ago
so basically, if i got it right, you feel that the people with above average level of emotional intelligence are left two options: suffer quietly in their own alienation or make an effort to try and help the less emotionally intelligent (adults) to gain more insight, however painful and frustrating that process might be. that about right? C:
it's probably true, even. i'm perhaps just too harsh, demanding and selfish to be prepared to agree to this philosophy. maybe i just haven't experienced enough kindness from my peers while growing up to develop sympathy and ability to forgive incompetence. don't they say most of our flaws as adults stems from wonky childhoods?
Artist Reimagines dogs as RPG classes 42 comments
lindsmolinari · 22 weeks ago
just a note from someone who knows a lil bit about these dogs: they're not for first time dog owners as they are a very demanding breed and require a lot of dog-handling knowledge to raise them properly. they are much more than a scary-looking fashion accessory you can tell to rip people's throaths out.
just the thought that one would want to have a dog simply because of its violent potential is freaking scary and unhealthy.
if you want to enjoy dog breeds just for their beauty/dangerous looks i reccomend googling pictures and/or going to dog shows and other events where you can get a closer look, talk to the owners, etc.
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Furry tacky thirsty Mink 5 comments
lindsmolinari · 22 weeks ago
nice hair tho :D
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The pettiness always makes me laugh (so I made a petty meme about it) 17 comments
lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
yes i understand it was meant as joke but there's the catch: it's not funny, it's terrifying. that's what i was saying. as for you active life, i am glad to hear it! would absolutely hate you to be counting upvotes on your funsubstance comments every day and i mean this genuinely, no sarcasm involved.
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lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
as for partnerts, nobody will be perfectly happy with anyone because we are all deeply flawed and irritable human beings but i feel it's important to find someone mature enough who understands this and is willing to devote themselves to the relationship to the same level as me, so that both sides take an effort to making it work. people who don't know/ want to learn how to communicate, make allowances, forgive, have productive falling outs etc, people who don't even know themselves enough to know how to live /alone/, they don't cut it. i don't want to spend decades on raising someone who should be a fully functional adult to start with, i don't care how good they look or how much money they have, hoenstly. people might even love you deeply and still be horrible long-term partners and as heartbreaking as it is, it's better to go separate ways than trying to twist and mould them into something you think they should be. changing people is a cruel and ungrateful process that rarely works.
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lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
@jasonmon i think that's an interesting take, having too many choices and the spoiling effect that might have on dating and finding a compatible partner. thanks for the book recc!
@guest_ this might come off as very primitive but i have always hated the social politesse and 'how are you's being thrown around solely as a way of satisfying social rituals. you could say i begrudge the entire society who even invented this. :P i've never asked someone how they were feeling if i didn't genuinely want to know. but that's purely my quirk and i realise i shouldn't judge others too harshly who don't feel about this the same way i do. i just take an instant liking to those people who answer thruthfully and who listen carefully to my reply (which is honestly almost never 'fine').
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lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
i don't think it's necessary to understand some deep philosophical truths about life to be able to care about people and take a genuine interest into what's in their hearts. i believe it has to with courage and mostly, with an actual desire to truly know someone. that's why it's so frustrating for me to deal with individuals who want to keep everything shallow and trivial. they're NOT incapable of interst and curiosity and compassion, those are children's traits, we all have some in us even as adults. they just refuse to care or something?? they'd travel the world to 'find themselves' and scroll through miles of facebook pages to learn every itty bit of someone's 'interests' but they twitch uncomfortably if one replies to 'how are you' with anything other than 'fine thanks'. i feel we should take more interest in people's feelings, thoughts and vulnerabilities instead of where they've been vacationing. it's /not/ that hard.
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lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
thanks for the kind words and encouragement! i feel similarly regarding the "high" standards in life but i have been told repeteady that i've allowed them to get too high and thus will never find happiness (or people to meet them) so it would be better to just accept that the world is shite and people are what they are and move on. i however refuse to. when someone makes an effort to try to understand you and really sees you, the good and the bad and still cherishes you, that's a really glorious feeling. however rare or brief these moments are, i think they're worth it. it might come at a price of being alone or lonely for certain periods of time, but i'll still make that deal. the only feeling worst than being lonely on your own is being lonely with people close to you. so i guess i'll stick to my standards, high as they might be and if i get lucky, i will. if not, at least i'll be miserable because i wouldn't live on other people's terms and settle for less. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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The pettiness always makes me laugh (so I made a petty meme about it) 17 comments
lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
yea suspicious of there being such a level of pettiness on both sides that is basically unlivable. get a life!
So nerve-wracking 8 comments
lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
you can achieve the same effect if stand up stark bollock naked
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lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
only stumbled upon your reply now, sincere apologies for the delay. i felt i really had to reply to thank you because, well, it means a lot to hear such praise, even if it is only from a stranger on the internet. it took me a while (e.g. long years od disappointment and personal growth) to get such a /wise/ view on relationships and stuff and i'm pretty proud of it too, frankly. it's also very frustrating as a lot of people (my age. and older. and younger. *sigh*) don't see these things the same way so it's hard to ... it's hard to find someone to love and be loved back properly (even if just platonicaly, maintaining good friendships is an ordeal). it's even hard to discuss other people's relationships as they tend to have obnoxiously biased views on the flaws and just won't listen to reason (ie, me. ^^). i feel really alone as a result, sometimes.
anyway, i'm really glad we've had this exchange. (putting it more childishly: you made my lil cold heart happy for a moment there. :D)
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The pettiness always makes me laugh (so I made a petty meme about it) 17 comments
lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
the thought that anyone would be acutely away of the current number of likes on /all/ of their comments on funsubstance is honestly horrifying
So nerve-wracking 8 comments
lindsmolinari · 23 weeks ago
always do that yourself. assert dominance by taking a deep breath and then releasing it as your classmates keep chattering. clear your throat twice and when that fails, say in slightly higher volume: 'do you mind?!'
i guarantee you that you'll be the sole center of attention for at least the next minute as the whole class glares at you in gravely silence. i tested it out!
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trannies 9 comments
lindsmolinari · 30 weeks ago
shouldnt this be like.. child abuse or sth??
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Brilliant 5 comments
lindsmolinari · 30 weeks ago
Human brain: makes depression *BACK AT YA HON*
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I can see that she still loves me, and I try my best to support her... But the pressure 7 comments
lindsmolinari · 30 weeks ago
improve upon yourself! even if shit goes bad, you'll still have the satisfcation of : trying to fix things and b) being a better version of yourself.
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OP can call the doggy ‘Harry Pupper’ 3 comments
lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
very handsome, should try to enroll him in some dog modelling agency or sth.
could make dog food advertisments :D
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Be gentle but these are my envelope doodles 9 comments
lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
the look really nice! i like the lil plump bee over there :D
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lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
that's terribly nice of you, thank you!
glad we agree that fighting, at least the regular, slightly prodcutive, often unavoidable kind, isn't supposed to be a dreaful, mean attack on the other person involved. it matters a lot if you yell at someone /because they left breadcrumbs on the couch/ or because /they're a bad person who leaves breadcrumbs on the couch/. just like you said, we should avoid criticising the person instead of their actions, it's mean and usually unproductive.
i believe it's possible to love someone very much and disagree with certain things they do or believe. p. sure it's quite impossible to love absolutely everything about someone. :S
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lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
oh no, that angry-ish bit in my reply , the one about 'proving' things wasn't aimed at you, @guest_ , honestly. :) you sound like a very balanced person and if not at least as someone articulate and experienced enough to make the reading of your commentary quite a delight. i've no beef with you, promise.
i'm just upset a bit that people (apparently, considering some replies to this thread) consider a bit of a disagreement and yelling to be a marker of a bad relationship. i on the other hand worry more about being afraid to express feelings and anger for fear of your partnet resenting you or whatever. even a terrific relationship will still feature lots of screaming and disagreements, that's how people are. nobody is so compatible they'd be able to read each other minds and such. talking/expressing concerns is a healthy way of solving things, not silence and repression/resentment. :S
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lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
i've been around people who express their feelings even if that leads to a bit of a heated discussion with their beloved partner. perhaps y'all want to prove it to me how repression for the sake of ''peace'' is healthier.
also, perhaps the economics should be considered. there's not much to fight about if everything is in abundance. :P
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He's wearing a sweater 5 comments
lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
sorry but to me it looks slightly stuffed...
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lindsmolinari · 31 weeks ago
in this way, if everything goes right /in the first try/ i'll have kids when i'm 45 and that's just a no-go if you're a person with ovaries.
nothing will ever be perfect and nothing is foolproof. just waiting about to see if stuff blows up is useless. besides, even the most ''perfect'' couples have a row at least once a day, you just don't know about it bc they don't put it on facebook.
....not saying you should consider reproducing on the 5th date tho.
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