That is how it will be with my husband if he tries to divorce me. Lol I told him if I marry you that is it. We will not divorce I plan to only marry once. So if he comes to me wanting a divorce I won't sign. If he takes me to court I'll plead the judge crying saying he loves me and I love him. I think we need counseling is all. And I will get it court ordered lol. Sorry nope only way you leaving is if you dead. (Omg I know I sound like crazy gf right now. Lmao) See I believe the only reason you get a divorce is if there is abuse or cheating. And if there isn't than you make your marriage work.
If he just starts cheating just to get out it trick the girl to the counseling to talk about why he likes her and why he is acting out. Lol my aunt did that and the woman got wierded out and told my uncle to never call her again. Lmao
After that he gave up and they are still married.
Marriage isn't suppose to last only a couple years. It is supposed to last a life time. I am in it for the long haul. And if you are only living day by day and allow petty problems ruin your marriage than married life isn't for you. And my husband knows it.
When we have a fight, we fight, we cuss, we say mean things just to see the other get mad. BUT we still go to the same bed, mad but still same bed. Next moring we are happy and saying I love you. Know why? Because we don't keep grudges. But we think about what we can do together so we don't fight about that problem again. Or if it was just a bad mood we say sorry.
Because we don't let stupid fights break us up. Every one fights so it is normal to fight but don't fight for days that is when you are letting your pride ruin your marriage.
its nice in theory but forcing things to work doesnt always work. as a child my parents kept forcing their marriage to work, i think "for the kids", and let me tell you it was a terrifying traumatizing place to grow up and forcing something that isnt working can be horrifically toxic not just to the people in the marriage but the people around. don't get me wrong, theres plenty of times where things CAN and SHOULD be worked out but painting everyone with that same brush is not okay. they finally got divorced after we moved out and i see sparks of the happy people i remember from young childhood returning to their faces and its a delight.
I'm sorry that you hard to grow up in a toxic environment. When me and my husband fight we never do it infront of our daughter, and if she hears us we always explain to her the truth. We got upset about something we talked it out. We may of yelled at each other but we still love each other.
I grew up as well in a home where everyday arguments between my mom and das happen. My mom threw my Dad out many times. But they still together today. Because deep down they still love each other, and even though I never remember them hugging or kissing or even saying I love you, they actually do love one another. When my Mom went into emergency surgery for a ruptured lower intestine my Dad drove 8 hrs on his big rig to get to her.
When my Dad learned he has altymers my Mom learned how to make and edit movies so when he forgets us he has videos of stories about us with pictures of us at that time told by him.
So he will see it isn't just a story it is his memories.
So not all families should make it work but if my family didn't I know I wouldn't be here because I was born 11 years after my parents got married I am at that mark in my marriage. My mother said if they called it quits the first time.she threw him.out it be over at year 5.
After that he gave up and they are still married.
When we have a fight, we fight, we cuss, we say mean things just to see the other get mad. BUT we still go to the same bed, mad but still same bed. Next moring we are happy and saying I love you. Know why? Because we don't keep grudges. But we think about what we can do together so we don't fight about that problem again. Or if it was just a bad mood we say sorry.
Because we don't let stupid fights break us up. Every one fights so it is normal to fight but don't fight for days that is when you are letting your pride ruin your marriage.
I grew up as well in a home where everyday arguments between my mom and das happen. My mom threw my Dad out many times. But they still together today. Because deep down they still love each other, and even though I never remember them hugging or kissing or even saying I love you, they actually do love one another. When my Mom went into emergency surgery for a ruptured lower intestine my Dad drove 8 hrs on his big rig to get to her.
When my Dad learned he has altymers my Mom learned how to make and edit movies so when he forgets us he has videos of stories about us with pictures of us at that time told by him.
So he will see it isn't just a story it is his memories.