The way it's written it sounds a little bitter, because it sounds like it's from the perspective of someone who has been hurt. But I think they are Saying, you can try as hard as you can to be something for someone or to please someone, but you will never beat someone else who naturally meets the needs of your partner.
I think you put it best, illjusthavewater. Even so, its incorrect to say effort can't equate to love because that only applies when the person you're interested in isn't actively interested in you. However, if that person IS interested in you, then your effort would be appreciated, and you would become more desirable in their eyes for trying so hard for them
Well, yeah. But no matter how much you change yourself, you're still you. And if the person you like doesn't like you, you respect that... cuz once he doesn't want you, he doesn't want you...
The sad thing is that its true. I worked hard for my last girlfriend, to become a better person, and be kinder, but she left me for some jackass douche because, and I quote "you offer me yourself, but he offers me the world." it hurt, and it still hurts, but I sort of get it. I wouldn't turn down that type of person either. They're still together. Hope it works out.
I think I get it but I don't quite agree. You need to be with someone that you can love almost effortlessly because that shows compatibility. Not just puppy love effortlessly either. Real chemistry but love isn't just in the emotion its also putting in the effort with the RIGHT person. Am I forgetting anything?
Now i got feels
Keep looking, you're a good person.