So last year, I go to school. I started out with one friend that I knew in primary school, and she made loads of friends and now we are all friends. But then, halfway thorough ghetto year, she gets a crush on this stupid guy and she starts acting different. Soon most of them do, and they are all acting like idiots, and being stupid in class. I'm not, and sometimes I don't do stuff with them because of what they act like. Well then I meet this kid. He is a boyfriend to one of them, but he is in everyone of my classes and always talks about violence. Then I get sick for a little while, ( I get sick pretty often) and when I get back, everyone is on full ditz mode and are freaking out about some dance. Usually we all went together as friends, but this time things were different.
All of these girls are chasing after some guy, and at this dance the kid who always talks about violence breaks up with one of them. Everyone else gets mad at him, and I'm a little mad but it's not really my business so I don't press it. Fast forward a few weeks. His former girlfriend, one of my friends, has depression. She keeps cutting. I'm trying to help her with it, and so is my other friend but my other friend.... She has anger issues. Instead of comforting my depression friend, she yells at her, and when I tell her to stop, that she is making it worse, she tells my I don't care about depression friend and scratches me. Things are worse, but at one point we tell a school counselor.
School counselor doesn't give a shit. School counselor blames us, and she isn't really paid enough to do anything. So we help depression friend, and she starts to get better. But my friends are changing, wearing less clothes, and more makeup, but they are only thirteen. All except me and another one. They start to neglect the other one. We go on break for three weeks. When we get back, violence kid has snapped. He has threatened to shoot everyone at school, and gets suspended. This scares off two of my friends; the somewhat normal one and the depression friend. Two more of them move to other places, and the group is breaking up. Now it is the next year.
I have three of those friends left. But all they care about is boys, clothes, and looking cool. I have no classes with them, and the only classes I have are with the violence kid. I still hang out with those girls, but I can tell one of them wants me out. Sometimes the girl with depression visits us. She is getting better too,and things are getting harder for me. This is the point I am at now.
Okay let's do this...
1. Have you tried asking the girl with depression what it is about? I know that sometimes depression come out of the blue, trust me, but maybe this was triggered by a bad memory or the glass finally tipping over?
2. If your friends are making you feel bad, you should probably leave them. It might hurt at first, but then you find other friends who are more like you and make you happier. When a group disbands it can hurt a lot of feelings. BUT ALSO: stay with them if that is what you want. I don't know enough about the situation to advise you from/for doing something. Sorry :o/
3. And it doesn't sound like that kid is right in the head. Seriously, he needs help.
How are you feeling about all this, though? I only got the facts, not emotions. Emotions are a big part of life, yanno.
You know how on the Internet, depression and suicide has been kind of romanticized? Well this girl is the most easily influenced person ever, and she honestly thinks it makes her special. I don't know why she needs this; whenever I ask her why, she says she is just and angel who wants to go home. This is some kind of tumblr thing, and I'm trying to tell her that this is not the answer. Thanks for the help, gamzee.
HI Folks, making friends is hard, I've hard to restart my life several times and building a network of friends has always been helpful. Here are some quick tips...
1. Ask someone for assistance with something. Like ask them to teach you something they are good at. This works far better than you would think.
2. Invite a bunch of people to do something. Keep it super casual and expectations low. Sometimes gathering people on your own terms makes you more comfortable.
3. Get in touch with old friends. Sometimes its pride or just people got busy, but reconnecting can be fun and rewarding.
4. Join a club, especially something with volunteer work. Try out a few. Not every one is a good fit.
5. Remember everyone has they own worries, problems and things they feel self-conscience about. Respect that sometimes they have their own things to deal with. Don’t expect a friend can be there for you at every bump in the road. It doesn't mean they aren't your friend.
Dude being an introvert isn't a fucking epidemic... I should know I am one... If you're not shy that means you can hold your own... And stop generalizing people... Ugh sorry... I just see way too much of these... Its starting to bug me...
1. Have you tried asking the girl with depression what it is about? I know that sometimes depression come out of the blue, trust me, but maybe this was triggered by a bad memory or the glass finally tipping over?
2. If your friends are making you feel bad, you should probably leave them. It might hurt at first, but then you find other friends who are more like you and make you happier. When a group disbands it can hurt a lot of feelings. BUT ALSO: stay with them if that is what you want. I don't know enough about the situation to advise you from/for doing something. Sorry :o/
3. And it doesn't sound like that kid is right in the head. Seriously, he needs help.
How are you feeling about all this, though? I only got the facts, not emotions. Emotions are a big part of life, yanno.
And you're welcome, Mythie :o)
1. Ask someone for assistance with something. Like ask them to teach you something they are good at. This works far better than you would think.
2. Invite a bunch of people to do something. Keep it super casual and expectations low. Sometimes gathering people on your own terms makes you more comfortable.
3. Get in touch with old friends. Sometimes its pride or just people got busy, but reconnecting can be fun and rewarding.
4. Join a club, especially something with volunteer work. Try out a few. Not every one is a good fit.
5. Remember everyone has they own worries, problems and things they feel self-conscience about. Respect that sometimes they have their own things to deal with. Don’t expect a friend can be there for you at every bump in the road. It doesn't mean they aren't your friend.