I kinda got that feeling when I started to save this picture to my phone. I subscribe to the idea that you can dislike something about someone without making it verbally known. Like, for instance, one of my close friends has some weird hand issue. I don't know all the details, but it makes his hands a little sweaty and cold. I intentionally don't say anything about it even though it's a little weird to touch his hands because I don't want to ruin his day or anything.
However, on the opposite side of the coin, it's okay to think that you were too hard on a person. If you're like, "wow his outfit should be burned in a fire and thrown into a volcano, actually no wait that's too far," then that's also good.
I don't know if that made any sense or not
Yeah it makes sense. You can look at someone's outfit and go " why ? Why would this bitch think she looks good ? " And just go into the next thing and not confront her and tell her YOUR opinion. But then you have people that go and want an explanation for the bad outfit and confront them and start shit and insult them when they aren't like " oh yes totally stranger my outfit is trash "
I get what you're all saying, but maybe calling the person a "bitch" in your first thought is more problematic than your opinion about the outfit... unless the person really is a bitch...hmm....
Well for me it's just be talking about a person, not assuming she is one. I tend to swear a lot, but if I called someone a bitch in my head I obviously wouldn't call them one unless they were acting like a bitch. So it's not really " problematic "
You can have opinions, there is nothing wrong with that
Tho I usually try to find the best thing I see on a person when I first meet them cause I like complimenting sincerely
If there is something you dislike, no need to say it
But if it's someone you're close with than go ahead
But there is a huge difference between constructive criticism and being a totally asshole
Tell you a story
My cousin always dresses very simply, a oversize anime t-shirt and long jeans
And that's cool but I thought it'd be nice if the can play around with her clothes a little, she's 17 now after all
So instead of saying like an old, mean aunty ''you dress like a teenager boy'' ''that shirt I'd say too big for you''
I ask her to go shopping with me, say some cute blue dress fits her (cause no way she will wear pink)
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People with opened mind will always welcome constructive comments as they wish to improve themselves
But you always have to learn how to say it properly
However, on the opposite side of the coin, it's okay to think that you were too hard on a person. If you're like, "wow his outfit should be burned in a fire and thrown into a volcano, actually no wait that's too far," then that's also good.
I don't know if that made any sense or not
Tho I usually try to find the best thing I see on a person when I first meet them cause I like complimenting sincerely
If there is something you dislike, no need to say it
But if it's someone you're close with than go ahead
But there is a huge difference between constructive criticism and being a totally asshole
Tell you a story
My cousin always dresses very simply, a oversize anime t-shirt and long jeans
And that's cool but I thought it'd be nice if the can play around with her clothes a little, she's 17 now after all
So instead of saying like an old, mean aunty ''you dress like a teenager boy'' ''that shirt I'd say too big for you''
I ask her to go shopping with me, say some cute blue dress fits her (cause no way she will wear pink)
.
People with opened mind will always welcome constructive comments as they wish to improve themselves
But you always have to learn how to say it properly