He appreciates all I do for him and I appreciate all he does for me. Even simple things like when I brush the knots out of his hair or when he gets me a glass of water.
I mean, if my boyfriend had his own apartment id clean it for him when he wasn't feeling good. All it is it a significant other helping another out, it's not that unbelievable
You seem to be an outlier. An exception, not the rule.
The first long term serious live in I had was a slob and generally did no cleaning or cooking. The vast majority of that was done by me.
I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt that it was class and workload... but the second was even worse with no workload at all. None and all cooking and cleaning was done by me, almost in its complete entirety.
None of the other half dozen girls I saw short term did any of this either. Short/long-term, live in and not, this just never happened.
Sure, the common belief is that couples should divide and conquer the household work load... But I never saw any of that. Ever.
Hell, with the first one when we were still dating and I visited her at school, I often had to clean up her room for her, it's probably the only time it did get cleaned up. I even told her at one point that "If our house looks like this after we marry, we're going to have problems." "It won't," she lied to me.
Maybe I just have shit luck choosing partners to share my life with...
Maybe it's just a pop culture myth.
" go on, keep bringing it "
Dude what? You said your side there wasn't an argument or anything.
I'm sorry you've had shit relationships where people don't pull their weight, find someone who's good for you before committing long term. My boyfriend doesn't clean a whole lot either so I make up for it when I'm with him but in lack of cleaning he makes up for it in other ways.
But just because you have had shitty relationships doesn't mean other people cant have okay or great relationships.
"Go on, keep bringing it," was encouragement for the downvotes of my personal experiences... not an argument because I know I sure as shit don't have a leg to stand on.
I'm not the cleaning type of girl but I will definitely make my idiot some rice chicken soup with green onion (very good for the health)
Makes sure he has some green plants in his room cause they bring positive energy (I sound like a fucking hipster) with lovely flowers
And me!
whenever I do stuff like that for my SO he asks why and calls me weird ._.
The first long term serious live in I had was a slob and generally did no cleaning or cooking. The vast majority of that was done by me.
I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt that it was class and workload... but the second was even worse with no workload at all. None and all cooking and cleaning was done by me, almost in its complete entirety.
None of the other half dozen girls I saw short term did any of this either. Short/long-term, live in and not, this just never happened.
Sure, the common belief is that couples should divide and conquer the household work load... But I never saw any of that. Ever.
Hell, with the first one when we were still dating and I visited her at school, I often had to clean up her room for her, it's probably the only time it did get cleaned up. I even told her at one point that "If our house looks like this after we marry, we're going to have problems." "It won't," she lied to me.
Maybe I just have shit luck choosing partners to share my life with...
Maybe it's just a pop culture myth.
Dude what? You said your side there wasn't an argument or anything.
I'm sorry you've had shit relationships where people don't pull their weight, find someone who's good for you before committing long term. My boyfriend doesn't clean a whole lot either so I make up for it when I'm with him but in lack of cleaning he makes up for it in other ways.
But just because you have had shitty relationships doesn't mean other people cant have okay or great relationships.
Makes sure he has some green plants in his room cause they bring positive energy (I sound like a fucking hipster) with lovely flowers
And me!