I know it's 100% sad if you let people run your life out of fear of labels. Are you who you are, or are you just whoever you think people want you to be? This pretty much is only an issue for straight guys who want to cuddle other guys, but here's advice for all: don't fall victim to homophobic thinking, and don't concern yourself much with the opinions of homophobes (with the possible exception of where you feel safety is a concern.) Don't let the fear of being labeled "gay" or "lesbian" stop you from enjoying an exciting miata or a sensible Subaru, a nice outfit you like, or the comfort of a good friend. As a society we need to stop equating "gay" "feminine" "docile" and "being a wimp" with each other. Beyond that Unless you plan to have sex with them, your sexual preferences aren't their concern- and if you like cuddling dudes and the lady you like doesn't like that it's no different than her not liking anything about you. Change who you are or find someone who likes you for you.
Good stuff. I hope this opens up a new chapter in life for you. Life is too short to let others tell you how to live it. We all just have to do our best and learn and grow, but the world needs more love between consenting adults, not less. Homophobes are small minded people and it's sad. But get out there and add some color to the world my friend. I'm glad you won't let them take from the world getting to know the real you. The world needs you the way you are, in the light and proud to be who you are.
I had to come out in the middle of a crowded area, because we were doing dares and they wanted me to kiss a girl in the same conference and I couldn't bear myself to kiss her. Then, I thought about the things said before
(Theyre all cool with it also)