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Take a hint buddy 6 comments
guest_ · 9 hours ago
Your name is not a boast- you truly are great @natethegreat- and it is and has been my pleasure to see your posts here. I feel comfortable saying that you are loved here by the community at large and I don’t think there’d be much if any serious disagreement in that statement.
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guest_ · 15 hours ago
Agree and disagree. Many times is the important qualifier- not all times. If I am going to be flying I care more that the people who designed and built and maintain and operate the aircraft be brilliant than kind. Ideally both, and certainly not brilliant but malevolent or psychotic- but there are quite a few situations where I’ll take correct and/or brilliant over kind.
Perhaps like so many things, life needs some balance and each has their place. That said- there is seldom a reason one cannot be correct/brilliant and also kind. Perhaps part of the problem is we often see overly concise or direct and correct/brilliant as related.
I’ve certainly met my fair share of people who were neither correct/brilliant or kind in general.
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guest_ · 15 hours ago
I agree, and I apologize as my statements imply the two are mutually exclusive. How much effort or time or what effort or time we put in to various things we believe in can be a complex subject and just because a person has a cause they are passionate about or they advocate on doesn’t mean they can’t care about or do work towards other things. I could qualify this statement on specifics of the matter, but as a general rule I agree and we cannot say or imply one thing is true of all people of a group when it is not universally true of all.
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guest_ · 15 hours ago
As a disclaimer- I will often step in to add such facts even on stances or individuals I do not support or dislike. If a lie or inaccuracy is made to disparage politician A whom I like or largely agree with I would correct the fault if I saw it the same as I would if a disparaging remark which is inaccurate or a lie against politician B whom is dislike. Much is subjective but much is essentially factual and non disputable- I’m less concerned that I “support my agenda” than I am that I support fact- or perhaps my agenda largely is that of fact. We can draw our own conclusions from fact, but the coroner stone of being able to discuss and relate is to be able to agree on certain facts. I see the erosion of reality for perceptive bias as a major root of many of our problems today. Manipulation of information as a form of debate by leading conclusions on incorrect or misleading information.
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guest_ · 15 hours ago
I’m sorry to hear that- and I don’t mean that in a surface level obligatory courtesy way- I have some experience with the pain of such matters and mean it with my deepest sincerity.
Also- I just want to state that I hope nothing I said came off as hostile or adversarial or like a “gotcha” or anything like that- tone can be hard to convey in text and I wasn’t judging or otherwise upset etc- I figured the initial misunderstanding was an easy and honest one and that probably most people wouldn’t be familiar with criminal prosecution surrounding miscarriage. So it was more a “not fun fact” post and I wanted to make sure that anyone coming along to read got the citations to proof it out.
Also I 100% see how this could be offensive and tbh I’m not sure wether the poster was aware of some or all the info and was speaking in earnest or if it was hyperbolic and just happened to be factually supportable. So that is another aspect to consider and not judge your reaction too critically.
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
You could call that a ridiculous leap- but I’ve shown several, just a sampling of the real examples where women have been charged or convicted stemming from a miscarriage in a world where that isn’t the case. A few of these examples and many others show a “stretching” of law or circumstance to validate the charges brought. If anyone wants to say my statement is alarmist- I’d hope they’d be right, but I’d put a money bet that within 10 or so years I’d be proven right and we could add an example to this list of an arrest for a crime like manslaughter to this list. It’s pretty messed up, but it is true that if you or someone you knew who can get pregnant were to miscarry in modern America, you could be arrested. More so in some states than others. Nothing about that is an exaggeration beyond the while you can be arrested MOST people probably won’t be. It’s subject to whim- maybe not the best or most comforting way for laws to be enforced but at least in this case it isn’t more often.
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
No where in the law does it say a miscarriage is legal either, and the law is open to interpretation in that often what it doesn’t say is a damning as what it does.
As the recent uptick in often vaguely worded or ambiguously defined legislation targeted at women's reproductive health in law continues, the reality is that what is legal or not becomes more questionable.
The crux is not necessarily wether miscarriage/still birth etc. are legal- it is what crimes can be applied when those things happen under various circumstances? Defining a fetus as a legal person is one example- the crime of manslaughter applies to the death of a person where death was not intended but was the result of “carelessness” or an action which the legal system defines as of foreseeable consequence leads to the death. A woman losing her pregnancy could find herself charged with such a crime if ANYTHING she did or did not do dieting pregnancy could be said to endanger a pregnancy for example.
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
In 2016 Indiana woman Purvi Patel went to the emergency room for bleeding. She had a still birth at roughly 24 weeks and after discovering evidence she bought abortion drugs online she was prosecuted for feticide- despite toxicology and examinations showing no signs the drugs were used and the evidence being sketchy at best. Prosecutors argued that the baby was born and alive at 22-24 weeks and Patel’s lack of care caused the death. She was convicted and sentenced to 20 years.
She was acquitted on appeals but not before going through a traumatic and life damaging conviction and incarceration process after losing a pregnancy.
I could go on with examples- recent ones like these- not counting all the examples from the past. So it does seem ridiculous when you read it- until you realize that yes- in many parts of America a woman losing a pregnancy can see her go to jail if she makes a single misstep along the way and it suits the whims and moods of those in position to put her there.
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
.. component.
So is it dumb someone could think this..? No. It’s quite reasonable. A woman in Alabama- Marshae Jokes was indicted for miscarriage in June of 2018 because she was shot and leading up to the shooting she had been in an argument.
In 2016 and 2017 two women in Arkansas were arrested after miscarriages.
Often times it isn’t the miscarriage which triggers the arrest. Several states have laws such as: “concealing a birth” or “concealing a death” in which failure to report a birth or death are crimes, and where a fetus is considered a person, a miscarriage can and sometimes is pursued as a “concealed death.” The rub there being that there aren’t a lot of “standard” avenues asides perhaps contacting the police to report a miscarriage to report such a “death” since there is no social security or other record keeping for a fetus.
Katherine Dellis gave birth at home to a stillborn baby and was sentenced to 5 months in prison for concealing a death.
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
@party05- not gonna go into my opinions etc. just a few fine points I want to clarify.
1. She does not say she wasn’t pregnant- she says she didn’t KNOW she was pregnant until she miscarried. It may seem far fetched but is very common that women who aren’t planning pregnancy often do not realize they are pregnant until relatively late in their term due to things like irregular periods or poor reproductive health knowledge, lack of obvious symptoms, and other reasons.
2. This doesn’t make sense but not in the context that she’s exaggerating- a lot that is messed up in the world “doesn’t make sense.”
3. I can’t say that it states nowhere in the law that miscarriage is illegal but remember that the law doesn’t say it’s illegal to Kill someone either- there are many scenarios where it is perfect legal to kill another human being. The Texas “abortion ban” also didn’t state it is “illegal” to get an abortion- it allows you to sue people who get or seek one. There isn’t a criminal..
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
Hidden for rule 34? Prudent.
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guest_ · 21 hours ago
Thank you @roanoke
He ain’t half wrong 7 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
Which you can see plainly what he said but also that he isn’t even actually saying it so much as he is saying he agrees with Vivek Murthy and is paraphrasing a general concept that the nation at large, coming out of a lengthy pandemic and the political strife of the previous administrations term into the aftermath and economic consequences of a long term global pandemic etc. are “down.” Which is sort of not really debatable- the overall National mood in the USA is that things are sorta bleh regardless of your politics- not too many people are super happy or optimistic with the state of things.
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guest_ · 1 day ago
BIDEN: “Well, I think the paradox is, part of it is, I think what, the failure of the last administration to act on COVID had a profound impact on the number of people who got COVID and the number of people who died. Now here’s what I’m, I think Vivek Murthy is right and most of the international and National Psychological Association, whatever it’s, people are really, really down. They’re really down. Their need for mental health in America has skyrocketed because people have seen everything upset. Everything they counted on upset. But most of it’s a consequence of, of, of what’s happening, what happened is a consequence of the, the COVID crisis.
People lost their jobs. People are out of their jobs. And then, were they going to get back to work? Schools were closed. Think of this. I think we vastly underestimate this. If you had, and instead of your child being, how old, five?”
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guest_ · 1 day ago
AP: I believe that was a Fed survey. You see this interesting shift, though, in the Census pulse surveys, which show people are clearly employed in a way they haven’t been. They are less dependent on unemployment benefits and the government for aid, and yet more of them say they’re having trouble with meeting their weekly expenses.
BIDEN: Well, two things.
AP: What’s that paradox?
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guest_ · 1 day ago
Funny meme. The headline is an example of out of context propaganda though. Biden did not say this. If you read the stories with the headline about Biden saying this, they are taking a snippet of an interview he did with the AP and implying that snippet was somehow in response to questions about his popularity.
The actual questions preceding Biden’s reply about people being “really really down” and about mental health of the nation were concerning inflation and consumer polling. For those who haven’t or don’t plan to read the AP interview here are the questions:
Take notes ladies 16 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
So you be you, they can be them. If you aren’t having the success you want in relationships you can decide wether you want to try and examine why and possibly change your approach or wether you think it’s someone else’s fault or you’re fine as is and are ok to wait until someone who is compatible with you as you are comes along.
She can do the same thing and if her approach isn’t working for her, she can decide to examine it and maybe change or she can keep doing what she’s doing.
It probably isn’t good advice in general though to say that most people need to devalue themselves or compromise reasonable things to make it easier for people who can’t be bothered to invest more effort than is required to take a free sample at Costco might date them.
Take notes ladies 16 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
There’s no reason men can’t do it to. Most won’t, and many who will will find that it doesn’t get them the best success with landing dates. That’s sort of how it works though. That’s life. You can do most things however you want. Some ways tend to be more successful or a more well worn path, but it’s up to you on what you want and how you want to get there. You don’t HAVE to go to college to become an Astronaut- but like… your odds are much worse if you don’t. So you decide- do you want to take the “road less traveled” on principle or whatever reason or is a result what you mostly care about? Men are free to be coy, to play hard to get etc. a lot actually do- usually it’s the ones who don’t care so much wether they are alone or not or the ones who have lots of prospects and feel they can be choosey- but anyone can do it. Your results may vary vs. Chris Evans or whoever else of course.
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guest_ · 1 day ago
.. stretch their legs or that they hate cilantro no?
And that starts before we’ve asked this person out or vice versa often doesn’t it? Because WHY do we want to go out? What is it that has our interest in this person?
Have we noticed little things about them and mannerisms or hobbies etc, or are they just good looking and we’d like the chance to get naughty with them?
How compelling is our interest? Do we really want to get to know them, or if they don’t practically jump in our laps are we not willing to put any more effort than that into dating them? And some will jump in and call out a double standard where traditionally and even to this day it tends to be on men to put up that effort- that this very meme points to that double standard that many women won’t put effort beyond subtle hinting etc. and expect a man to “make the move” or “chase” her. Well…
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guest_ · 1 day ago
This extends to romance. Most people want to see some level of interest and investment by their partner. Most people want to feel like they have someone who understands THEM as a person and knows THEM- if a person has to tell you everything they feel or want that usually means you don’t understand them. That’s one aspect and another is interest.
Many of us can bake every Pokémon and it’s evolutions and how it evolves and things like weaknesses and moves and stats and natures and combos etc. we can rattle off spell and gear sets from games or the specs for various machines or every little nuance of the stock market or crypto game or every sneaker made for the last 50 years or whatever thing from books or films or whatever else we love. So it certainly can be disappointing to a partner of someone who can recite every fight Goku ever had and what happened when that person doesn’t realize after 6 months that their supposed partner gets cranky when they are stuck in the car and can’t…
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guest_ · 1 day ago
So then, say this person ends up in the hospital for their woes, would you think: “how could they have never told me they had this problem? Every Wednesday I did a head tilt and said: ‘sup and they never told me….” No. Of course not. You interacted at a very causal level. Nothing there suggested you cared about them more than the most basic levels of social convention dictated right? Likewise- how “special” would you feel to have a partner whom only saw you when it was most convenient for them but never put any effort to spend time with you? Someone who if you said: “I can’t drive to your work anymore for lunch because my car broke and I’m using the bus now, could you come to my work?” And you never saw them again for lunch? Most of us don’t want to just be someone another person calls over when they want something do we?
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guest_ · 1 day ago
Is a zone in between “no sane person could have understood what you were thinking…” and “almost anyone paying attention and applying interest could or should be able to figure this out…”
There is a difference between being dishonest and expecting someone to puzzle out or prove for your true feelings and being honest but not saying everything that is on your mind and leaving it to them to invest in meeting you part way if they actually care.
In general, most of us want to know that someone cares enough to put in effort specifically for us- we often greet people by saying “how’s it going?” Or similar, but it’s expected that people generally will say something like “good, you?” Or “how’s it going” back etc. and keep it light. Most understand we aren’t actually asking them how they are doing and intending to listen to half an hour about their marital troubles or health right?
Take notes ladies 16 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
.. people who play the way you like.
I mean- when we stop and think about it, if we are going to say to a person or a group: “change the way you engage in romance to suit my tastes (outside a context of respectfulness..)” what we are really saying is that for the ability to be able to date us they should change…. And well… is it really “their loss” at not getting to date us because they “came at us wrong” that we are concerned with in this example or is it that so many people are more upset at the opportunities they’ve missed to date people they’d wanted to date had they picked up on or reacted properly to more subtle advances? So I mean- it’s a valid question- is it for the woman’s benefit that you’d tell her to be direct, or your own benefit so you have an easier time?
Me thinks more the latter. Of course there are places of compromise and at some point if we are too indirect in life or relationships we do often sabotage our own happiness. People aren’t mind readers but there…
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guest_ · 1 day ago
So not everyone likes the same types of games for sure- and that’s part of the point. You’re looking for in part someone who enjoys the same play as you- someone who is fun and interesting and shares some values in how you think and what you want. So there’s nothing wrong with just speaking up- being forward and direct. Lots of people like and appreciate that. Lots of people like their dating to play more like “animal crossing” with minimal anxiety and some pleasant surprise and variance but mostly a stable game play loop that isn’t full of ups and downs in extremes- and some people like a little more excitement or stress or such. When it comes to it- it really is less how others ask us out (providing they’re being respectful) and more on how we respond. If you aren’t someone who likes or picks up on “subtle hinting” or “invitations to make a move,” then people who communicate that way probably aren’t for you and instead of them changing their way of playing- you just need to go find..
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guest_ · 1 day ago
Excitement and novelty and such have different importance to different people and it can change as we age- but most people enjoy SOME level and some form of these things. There can be stress that comes along with it- things like anxiety of course like “Will they/won’t they?” “Do they like me too?” And sometimes we are let down and sometimes we soar on a high of success. Life is full of “good stress” and “bad stress.” Videogames are a great example of many things involving humans because they are systems designed to cater to and/or exploit our way of thinking. Games tend to not be fun much of the time when there is no stress- no element of urgency or such be that a timer or rising lava etc. but some people don’t like that type of “fun stress” or can’t handle it. So what of a game like “Animal Crossing,” popular because it is so laid back? Well… it’s still full of surprises isn’t it? Chance? What is in the shop or who shows up in town or when and where you’ll find special items and such?