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guest_ · 1 hour ago
I dated a woman under 5 feet. Baby faced, and many thought she looked like a child. She was also very “cutsie” in her speech etc. I’m again- NOT defending anyone. Im just saying that while I have a hardline stance against pedophiles and don’t even like dating people who are more than a few years younger than me AT MOST- I sometimes think about various scenarios and how society views them to try and deconstruct these things. From any angle- sex with kids is sick- but exploring the uncomfortable angles of hypotheticals is... interesting.
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guest_ · 1 hour ago
Of course we could say a “child looks different..” but that is t always the case. Putting asides dwarfism or rare medical conditions- some people don’t develop much or at all. It’s often used as an insult- but looking at the bodies or faves of some adults- there can often be what looks like a large pre teen in front of you. I have a male friend who is 5 foot 5 (giving them the benefit of fractions of an inch) die to their genetics and ethnicity- they barely grow ANY body or facial hair and are VERY baby faced- in their 30’s they still must wear a wrist band in casinos to avoid constant carding or attempts to escort them out.
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guest_ · 1 hour ago
I’m not advocating or supporting pedophilia- the scenario I describe is obviously ludicrous. It’s just a thought exercise to examine things. An 18 year old is legal and widely socially acceptable- some may cheer you for dating an 18yo (especially at 25,35,50+..) or some may feel disgust- but “playing” as a high schooler or even younger with school kid costumes and teacher fantasies and such is acceptable with an adult why? Because they are mentally an adult right?
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guest_ · 1 hour ago
But as a thought exercise to those with partners they are committed to-if some “magic” or sci fi or such reverted your spouse or long term partner to a child’s body- same mind, same person.... how would you react? Would you stay with them? Would you be romantic- or even intimate- or would you- could you sustain a relationship for say- 10 or so years without those aspects until their body matured? Or what if it never would?
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guest_ · 1 hour ago
Pedophilia, like many sexual or emotional or mental topics can quickly become muddy and uncomfortable if we look at it long and deep enough. Many people are fine with “school girl” fantasies, naughty teacher, babysitter- these are quite common as are things like sexualizing the infantilization of others (especially women...) with things like “daddy” and making ones voice higher pitched etc....
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guest_ · 1 hour ago
I’d agree that pedophiles are sick. If we can help, those we can help- we certainly should- TO BE CLEAR- alcoholics are often sick too- as are many who are abusive. We should help them too- but we still have to protect others from behaviors that endanger them and there are still consequences for something like drunk driving even if you are unwell and need help. That said...
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guest_ · 1 hour ago
@famousone- even though I’m aware of these folks- you took the words right out of my mouth. What the fuck indeed.
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How are you doing? 4 comments
guest_ · 3 hours ago
So most people may spend about the same amount of time a day doing the tasks they need to- but we have more to show for it and often don’t have to work as hard at it. You will probably have to work every day for most of your life in order to have a place to sleep and food- but that hasn’t changed much for most people in thousands of years. History is full of people that have lived lives full of art and beauty, joy, love.... we do what we need to survive- but amidst that survival we find life, and we live it. Find the bright spots.
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guest_ · 4 hours ago
Life isn’t just that. That’s just a part of life. In the past- and all over the world today- people have to spend much of their day, every day- doing things just to survive. Fetching freshwater, hunting, tending, gathering, growing food and then preparing it for daily meals. Chores done without modern tools or conveniences- walking instead of driving or riding trains.... now instead of chopping wood and all these other things just to survive- we punch a clock, work a register, type, etc.
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Perfect timing. Thank you murderer 5 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
So the harsh person would say- any bad that can happen to us is the product of choices and inevitable circumstances that are simply inherent to our reality. We could also say that whatever happens to us is simply one event in a chain started by the choices of others made before we were born. I don’t think either is the whole truth. One speaks to an idea of absolute control over our lives- a comfort to the insecure; and the other implies a destiny we cannot really move- things happen and we can’t be blamed. As you say- it’s all based on details and context. We can be humanists and say: no one can fully predict all the ripples of any action over the course of their lives. That the circumstances of our birth can create challenges and limit the choices we have- thus limiting the possibilities open to us.
Perfect timing. Thank you murderer 5 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
That’s the divide between the overly harsh and the “bleeding heart” that quite often neither seems to be able bridge and reconcile. We aren’t responsible for the circumstances of our birth- and everything that comes after that is in part influenced by our birth. BUT- whatever circumstances we find ourselves in at a given moment in our lives IS literally the product of our choices within the bounds of circumstances we have. Now- we are all bound by certain things near as we know. Biology and physics aren’t documented to change based on much we can do. We can work within them, possibly manipulate them- but we can’t really change them as far as we know.
Meanwhile in 'Merica 6 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
But specifically- when it comes to law enforcement and other jobs that serve the community- there are many advantages to having all types of people from the community represented. It can remove many feelings of bias based on those factors, it can eliminate a feeling of “us vs them” that can happen when one group from outside a community or sub community holds all the power- it can help citizens take pride and ownership and involvement in their communities instead of carving out their own subcultures that often exist outside of a system of government that doesn’t understand or often respect or accommodate them.
Meanwhile in 'Merica 6 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
That is a major part of how we find legitimate bias as opposed to cases where certain people FEEL a bias, or BELIEVE there is bias. The answer is obviously not to take drastic action at the mere mention that someone somewhere feels discriminated against- but we also ant just ignore any or all evidence that there could be discrimination. We have to look closer when we see there is possible evidence of discrimination- try to find a cause- of any- and correct it- or exonerate those involved and show with impartial data that there isn’t anything sinister or malicious afoot- but some other explanation. Not a lot of Canadians become pro sumo wrestlers- and well... part of that we could say is discrimination and part of that is just “innocent” circumstance.
Meanwhile in 'Merica 6 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
they just weren’t the best candidates- not because of prejudice, and not because of systemic or other barriers preventing people from being able to do things they want to do.
Meanwhile in 'Merica 6 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
The person making that reply is missing the point- it doesn’t ultimately matter the race of a person doing a job or able to do a job- but it DOES matter that we are giving people a fair shot at these jobs. Many people say: “leave race/gender/etc. out of it! Just hire the most qualified candidate!” Well... yes. I agree that we SHOULD hire the most qualified person- the “best” person for a job in general... but.... if ask yourself this- are 70-90% of leading actors “white” because there are so few “good” actors from other groups... or are we passing up good- potentially better candidates because they aren’t white? The reason we have to look closer at “race” or other seemingly disproportionate bias is because that argument is a 2 way street- we have to be certain that when a group is seemingly underrepresented that it IS because for whatever reasons-
Meanwhile in 'Merica 6 comments
guest_ · 4 hours ago
Thank you. People seem to discount these stories- if you don’t have specifics you must be exaggerating; and if you do have specifics- you’re exaggerating or it is a pocket case. Personally, in my long career I’ve been present for many hiring decisions- seen everything from overt and undisguised prejudice to euphemisms and less obvious but clear bias. The receptionist needs to be young, pretty, and have good tits- that’s one I saw a lot of- even over more qualified applicants, even when the staff that has to deal with the receptionists work overwhelmingly favored a more qualified person- and no- to those who say things like “businesses ran like that exist.. but they won’t be in business long/be successful...” one example (that my inside sources say still do this in 2020..) was and still is a VERY well known and successful large business group.
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guest_ · 1 day ago
Agreed- and a feeling I know. And when the business needs are what they are- if the only time you can get the call you need in is 3am your local time- you do it. But it it what it is. We don’t need to visit upon kids and young adults a 24/7 on call schedule- but it’s not a bad idea to give them some idea what they’re walking into.
Anon is a terrible DM 5 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
And yes- playing spells and counterspells and potions and such to try to get information or influence NPCS can have all sorts of results and unknowns- versus “punch him until he talks...” “intimidate...” I mean- yes- having a low or medium level party with a tank who can punch their way out of many dangerous situations that less physical characters can’t will change the game.
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guest_ · 1 day ago
That said- in general- they aren’t as “interesting” in many regards. Outside combat and dungeons- but just around towns and at camp- yeah- being able to conjure a mansion or create alternate dimensions, shape shift etc etc makes for generally more “interesting” interactions and way more variety in game play. Most “martial classes” have all sorts of ways to augment or enhance smashing and slicing- but yeah- that’s gonna be a strong component in their problem solving.
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guest_ · 1 day ago
Martial classes are great. Some of the greatest party members and fun to play. Martial classes often have advantages at lower level especially, and a party of low level wizards and clerics will have trouble surviving things that having martial party member would make much easier. Add on enchanted gear and other items- and a martial character can be quite a threat and very interesting to boot.
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Been trying to make it as photographer for years but damn, I am still at the "Wait, 6 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
If you are lucky enough to be in an area with famous museums or zoos, landmarks, etc. or where films are shot- you can look for work doing things like documenting, or unit work and stills. Even taking reference shots and doing lighting tests is something for a portfolio and resume. Principal photography on a movie set can make you look pretty fancy to clients- and is a source of income.
Been trying to make it as photographer for years but damn, I am still at the "Wait, 6 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
* I’m teasing with love. I enjoy photography as a hobby (especially with my drone,) but one of my best friends was a photographer- and his father was a relatively high grade photographer who has taken cover shots for many high profile publications over his career. It can be very hard to make money as a photographer, and I tease- but having other sources of income can be wise- especially when starting out- but if it’s a passion one should follow it as far as they can. And the Wedding advice is good solid advice. Do weddings and portraits/commissions and spread word of mouth. Take good shots when out and about and opportunity arises. Post your work where it can be seen, and make submissions. Try local organizations and publications and look for professional work in advertising.
Been trying to make it as photographer for years but damn, I am still at the "Wait, 6 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
Alternate tip: while many people may not pay anything, or much- for your photographs- people usually WILL pay you pretty well for your camera (assuming you have a decent one.) So another way to make money in photography is to sell your camera on eBay. Many novice photographers make the biggest pay days of their careers this way.
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Been trying to make it as photographer for years but damn, I am still at the "Wait, 6 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
Another pro tip to making money as a photographer:
step 1: go get work somewhere like as an accountant, lawyer, engineer, etc. after a year or two buy some decent photography equipment.
Step 2: keep working that job, and then take pictures in your free time.
Step 3: look at your bank balance each month. You are now doing as well as the top 10% of photographers in the world! Congratulations. You made it. You figured out how to be a photographer and make a decent wage!
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Student an*logies. Odd, usually it's HIS face being compressed by the thigh-master 4 comments
guest_ · 1 day ago
Lol. Same more or less- that in the right story with the right tone- all of these could be wonderful. No- if you drop one of these in the middle of Tom Clancy... yeah, they don’t fit. But Adams wrote things like this as have many other wonderful writers with wit and humor.