God i have a super super close guy friend who tells my everything and constantly tries to keep my moral and happiness up constantly being super sweet and talking to me whwnever. But he doesnt like me like that. At all. The struggles of being fucking #ugly
We literally talk every. Day. He calls me about twice a week to talk for what has been 3 hours each time. And we see each other at school every week day
Funny enough the post above this touches on this and the comments are full of people talking about how fat or ugly or short men have a bias against them. I know plenty of people who have had experiences like this- one in particular is- by 99% of people who see her- shes a stereotype of someone who has it all and yet she can’t get/keep a man despite wanting to. There can be a million reasons. But it is a tad hypocritical for men or women to complain about the other sex and their impossible standards. Plenty of people will date you, they just don’t meet your standards. Do you want someone who you want to be with or just anyone? If you want the right person you have to find them- and if you don’t think your standards are too high you’re either wrong, or you’ll have to wait for what you want. Don’t blame a whole gender because you can’t find someone who meets your standards and you meet theirs.
Sometimes i feel like people go into a relationship or attempt to find one that fit their standards even if they don't mean to. Some folks do intentionally friendzone others but at times those who do it without realising may be so comfortable around you yet they have an ideal in their head that you don't fit hence the reason they don't recognise you as a good potential partner
I had the hallmarkpuppy love expectation since I was raised into thinking this was the ideal standard. When I stopped looking for it suddenly I saw how much a friend of mine cared about me. He wasn't pretty but at some point I didn't care. It might not be easy to be ugly and get love but the ones who can eventually look past that are worth it.
The guy i like isnt attractive at all. Hes just so sweet and dorky. And he cares about me so much. Everyone who ive showed pictures too just kinda says. Noooooo you can do better. I disagree first of all. I definitely cannot. But hes friendzoning me. Constantly. Its a bit disheartening. We click in so many ways and hang out all the gd time, always isnstigated by him, but he just thinks of me as a friend.
It ould be posible that might be true. My current partner wasn't sure how to tell me he liked me while I was blind to what he did for me. First guest btw.
Second guest: hes oblivious as Fuck. Ive basically spelled it out to him so many times that i have a crush on him but he just keeps asking whats wrong and is genuinely concerned for me.
I had the hallmarkpuppy love expectation since I was raised into thinking this was the ideal standard. When I stopped looking for it suddenly I saw how much a friend of mine cared about me. He wasn't pretty but at some point I didn't care. It might not be easy to be ugly and get love but the ones who can eventually look past that are worth it.