I bet she's single!

But we say it and suddenly we are naggy and don't shut up.

In truth, one shouldn’t have to say everything. As an example: if you’re really hoping your friends will throw you a surprise party, telling them defeats the purpose no? Or if you’re hoping someone will remember you did a nice thing for you and thank you- if you have to remind them you did it, it defeats the original desire- that they would think of you. Same with remembering things like what you like or your birthday. Anyone can “get it right” if you tell them exactly what to do. Many times women and men figure that a “special” person that they mean a lot to will be in sync or think of things on their own. There is more to it of course. Sometimes fear of how people will perceive you for speaking up, or a desire to preserve the persons ego or avoid a conflict. As many legitimate reasons to not speak up, there really is a time to speak up if you aren’t happy because two people being upset over something easily solved with words is silly.

Sam