Honestly, it’s not true. I almost feel ashamed of admitting this, but I’m not.
I was watching a TV series on Netflix, and out of the blue two male character shared a really passionate kiss. And honestly, speaking as a straight male I was a little uncomfortable and I looked away. And I’m not apologizing for it either. The fact was, in the moment I wasn’t able to look, and I didn’t. But I’m not homophobic, I’m not opposed to gay marriage or it’s legalization, I don’t begrudge them as individuals, or as a couple or hold their love against them. The fact is I’m not in anyway opposed, but I was still made uncomfortable in the moment. I don’t think that’s wrong. I think everyone needs to accept homosexuality as normal, and not something that needs to be vilified. But I think you should cut people some slack as they adjust to things they’re not used to. Make no mistake, they HAVE to adjust- being a dinosaur is not acceptable. But show some patience
It’s also not gay people’s responsibility to educate homophobes. If you’re straight and know better, it’s your responsibility to educate homophobes. Gay kids who are struggling with the isolation of being gay don’t need to be subjected to that. Furthermore, it’s not gay people’s responsibilities to serve as mentors or teachers to homophobes, at the expense of their mental health.
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It's not gay people's responsibility, but who do you think is more convincing? A straight person who doesn't know the struggle of living as a gay person or a gay person who knows the struggles. Although, a straight person as an ally would help too.
Also, nobody is asking them to compromise their mental health. If they don't understand, just leave them be.
And this given situation is particularly different, OP doesn't have any friends and these two people they genuinely like these two people and I am sure they like them too, so perhaps they can turn them around.
Homophobes more likely to not murder straight people, for one, so I still think you’ll be more convincing. Gay people are automatically put at risk for bias, discrimination, or violence when interacting with homophobes, so this mindset wherein straights encourage us to interact or come out to them is dangerous. It also passes off the responsibility to be better from the homophobes themselves (ie ‘they’re old minded’), onto gay people to be ‘good enough’ to change their minds (ie ‘maybe this is what they need to be accepting’). The realities of hatred and acceptance are MUCH more complicated than that, and encouraging gay people to potentially put themselves at risk without knowing other factors is dangerous.
Just don’t do it dude
I was watching a TV series on Netflix, and out of the blue two male character shared a really passionate kiss. And honestly, speaking as a straight male I was a little uncomfortable and I looked away. And I’m not apologizing for it either. The fact was, in the moment I wasn’t able to look, and I didn’t. But I’m not homophobic, I’m not opposed to gay marriage or it’s legalization, I don’t begrudge them as individuals, or as a couple or hold their love against them. The fact is I’m not in anyway opposed, but I was still made uncomfortable in the moment. I don’t think that’s wrong. I think everyone needs to accept homosexuality as normal, and not something that needs to be vilified. But I think you should cut people some slack as they adjust to things they’re not used to. Make no mistake, they HAVE to adjust- being a dinosaur is not acceptable. But show some patience
Also, nobody is asking them to compromise their mental health. If they don't understand, just leave them be.
And this given situation is particularly different, OP doesn't have any friends and these two people they genuinely like these two people and I am sure they like them too, so perhaps they can turn them around.
Just don’t do it dude