Everyone needs to cooperate to keep button layouts consistent

After years and years of playing Call of Duty on my 360 to play anything on the Switch has killed me. Now I'm getting both messed up and I don't even know who I am anymore as a gamer.

PS4 controller on PC. Does it register Dinput, the PS4 controller itself, or do I have to use Steam or DS4Windows to disguise it as an Xbox controller? And if it doesn't need the wrapper, will it still use Xbox prompts anyway? Or just recognise it as a "generic gamepad" and have the listings as button 1 through 16 or so?

I love the Switch but the reversal of the "confirm" and "cancel" buttons drives me up the wall. It takes me forever to get used to, and then when I go back to PS4 or XBONE I have to get reaclimated.