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this made my day

Hits hard

I have lived by this for a long time and it really helps

Generally people want to say the second thing, though.

Sometimes I feel one way, or the other, or both, so I say what I feel. I've always been annoyed at people, especially parents urging others to say sorry when they don't mean it, but I dislike the other way round too. I agree with garlog, surely the expression wouldn't be that common if people didn't feel so. It does work vice versa, saying a phrase repeatedly can shape your mindset, but still if you're sorry when you shouldn't be others will reassure you when you say it, I think it's still better than not saying and/or feeling sorry about anything less than someone's death. Maybe it's just me, but I'm more under the impression that 'sorry' isn't said and especially felt enough in this world. Guilt is supposed to be a good thing as it means you have a conscience and an incentive to improve yourself, it isn't about self-pity because we alll do things we should be sorry for daily. It shouldn't torment you forever but remind you of your good atitude about your actions.

That entire right column be like "British". We're not actually sorry, but we've been "educated" to put "Sorry" as a prefix for any human interaction.