This sounds good, but making a relationship work often takes more than that, especially if one or both parties bring other baggage to the relationship at the start.
So, advise in relationships, an abbreviated list.
1. Be kind to each other. Compliments are good. Acts if kindness are great, just washing your partner's dishes or cleaning a room they made messy can do a lot to show you care.
2. Communicate. Talk to each other. Tell your partner about your upcoming schedule when you know about it. Talk about your problems to each other. Especially your problems with each other. If you tell your partner something they do bothers you it's more likely it will change than if that thing is the last straw after a long frustrating day and it becomes a fight. If you would really like it if your partner would do something they don't do- tell them. No one is a mind reader.
3. Whenever possible-walk away when you get angry and cool down before you come back....
(Cont. 3) ... Obviously this doesn't work if you are in a car or at some kind of social event that demands you both stay. But when people get angry they are more likely to say and do hurtful things. Even if information should be communicated about the problem, it likely benefits from waiting until people have cooled down and are going to approach the issue calming and with respect. I know something's are time sensitive, and those often need to be an exception.
4. Be honest. I feel this should be obvious, but sometimes even things that seem obvious go right over our heads when we aren't thinking about them. Generally speaking the truth upfront will be better that the truth when it finally catches up to you months later.
5. Don't be mean. Don't put each other down or insult the others friends or family. Make sure when you are being honest about bad things its constructive.
6. Be considerate. Your actions always effect other people and your partner more than most....
... (6 cont.) Being mindful of each others schedule is big here. Also, if you know your partner has an allergy, be mindful to avoid bringing the allergen into your home (pet dander, plants) OR IF the allergy is food, make sure food containing it is well labeled (especially if their allergy is to something less obviously in the food)
7. Save competition for game night. Don't compete over earnings, chores completed, or other life skills/tasks. You are partners, this things should be collaborative. Playing competitive games is often fun and good hearted-just don't let that go to far either.
I know this list is incomplete, but I hope it's still useful to anyone struggling with relationships.
So, advise in relationships, an abbreviated list.
1. Be kind to each other. Compliments are good. Acts if kindness are great, just washing your partner's dishes or cleaning a room they made messy can do a lot to show you care.
2. Communicate. Talk to each other. Tell your partner about your upcoming schedule when you know about it. Talk about your problems to each other. Especially your problems with each other. If you tell your partner something they do bothers you it's more likely it will change than if that thing is the last straw after a long frustrating day and it becomes a fight. If you would really like it if your partner would do something they don't do- tell them. No one is a mind reader.
3. Whenever possible-walk away when you get angry and cool down before you come back....
4. Be honest. I feel this should be obvious, but sometimes even things that seem obvious go right over our heads when we aren't thinking about them. Generally speaking the truth upfront will be better that the truth when it finally catches up to you months later.
5. Don't be mean. Don't put each other down or insult the others friends or family. Make sure when you are being honest about bad things its constructive.
6. Be considerate. Your actions always effect other people and your partner more than most....
7. Save competition for game night. Don't compete over earnings, chores completed, or other life skills/tasks. You are partners, this things should be collaborative. Playing competitive games is often fun and good hearted-just don't let that go to far either.
I know this list is incomplete, but I hope it's still useful to anyone struggling with relationships.