When you want someone, you better use what you can to attract them (whatever that is)
But that doesn't mean the things you use are all you are.
What's complicate about that??? It's not rocket science.
I agree with Rosi. The fact a man or woman uses looks or money to attract people doesn’t mean they want to be reduced to JUST that. People dress and groom themselves to be attractive every day, you might tell jokes or cook etc. but that isn’t ALL you are, and after a person has been attracted and gets to know you, most of us hope they find other things to love about us and dont just love us because “we are a good cook” or “funny,” but for all the other things that make us, us.
But that doesn't mean the things you use are all you are.
What's complicate about that??? It's not rocket science.