Maybe. Maybe not. “Young love,” especially high school love is statistically unlikely to be “life long” or anywhere close- but it CAN be. If you’re happy where you are and don’t plan to leave, if you have a good career that doesn’t require a college education, and if you’re objectively sure (a good test is how HONEST third parties with good judgment rank your relationship odds lt-) that it’s a meaningful relationship- it might not be so idiotic.
There is something to be said about not “giving up your dreams” or “sacrificing opportunities” for love, but the reverse is true too. It really comes down to what you want to invest in with your life. If an opportunity is worth more than your relationship to you or not- and if it is, you have your answer. Even married folk face these choices. No one can say “if it’s true love it will survive being apart <a few months, years, etc...>” because that’s not how relationships work. Some can survive long distance and some can’t. Some can be reconnected later and some can’t.
Regrets are funny things. You might regret “letting that one go” for the rest of your life. No amount of money or success can buy back a persons love. You might stay with them and end up regretting not going after the other thing. Hindsight tends to leave “what if’s..” Its probably better odds to take the scholarship and ditch the relationship- but if they get married and have a good life together perhaps he isn’t such an idiot after all? We are what we make of ourselves.
But with a full paid scholarship he could offer a better life for her (and she should strive for better too) you know if he is really doing it fornher. Or you know either one of them is lying
Lol. Lying is a real possibility there. But- your ODDS of providing a better life MAY be higher if you go to college. I personally know a long list of people who never went to college and make 6 figures a year, many by doing what they love. But there’s also high odds that the relationship won’t survive college. In which case he wouldn’t be giving her or them a better life by default- just him. But what is “better” in life? If you just want to be happy and do as much of what you want with life- then even modest comfort is huge success. For the sake of “simple happiness,” money is just a way to have less worries so that you can enjoy the things you love. If you have few worries and many smiles, if you’re happy with what you have even if you could always have more- then all there is beyond that are things like ambition, legacy, etc. if you feel you’re living your purpose- you’re doing alright.
Definitely still a gamble going to college but helps GREATLY to have fulln scholarship. You can just go. If you have to invest your on money yes you bhave to probably think twice or thrice. And better is not necessarily money, but maybe pressure from regretting declining full scholarships.
Its all relative. The question we must ask when deciding wether to do s thing or not is- do we have anything “better” to do? 2-4 years is short but also long. So in those years- what would you plan to do? What is it you WANT to do? All other things being equal- wether it’s college or how to sail a boat, or being able to read Sumerian- there’s always a POSSIBLE use for any knowledge, and it’s better to have knowledge you don’t need than need knowledge you don’t have.
BUT- it’s also the case that the time it took to learn Sumerian could have been spent learning to play guitar or fly a plane. The one you choose to spend your time on is best if it’s the one most prudent to what you believe you will need or use to what you believe is the best end. It all depends on the life you have and the life you want- with the last element being chance. While it may be harder and or more expensive to go to college later- and it may give one a “better start” towards ones goals to have a degree- that all depends.
But going to college isn’t “free” for him. He will likely have to give something up. It’s unlikely- especially based on his decision, that his relationship with her would survive the trip. So weighing the potential risks and benefits he decided that he feels more confident he can achieve the life he wants without the scholarships than he can achieve the life he wants without her.
Sacrificing long term goals for short term pleasure or convenience is generally not a good path to success in life. He is also gambling on knowing what he will think or feel as well as her- in the future. That’s risky too. He risks resentment towards her as well if life or the relationship doesn’t go well and then he “blames” her. But- between him and me I have to assume he knows himself better because I don’t know him at all.
So he made a choice that is very potentially risky- but that doesn’t make him an idiot. Some of the “greatest minds” and names in history made risky choices. What separates an idiot from a genius is often the results. To this day Hannibal riding elephants over the alps is a grand tale. Hanibal isn’t held largely in history or public opinion as an idiot- despite his alpine crossing reportedly costing half his troops, one of his eyes, and all but one elephant.
In fact- the resulting campaign is commonly held up with him as a great leader and hero. But- he ultimately lost. Ultimately the defeat in the war he started left Carthage far worse than it started off- and he never achieved his goal in his lifetime. Yet... He isn’t remembered as “Hannibal the foolish” or “that idiot Hannibal...” so I don’t know that I’d say this guy is an idiot as much I would that he’s taking a risk.
Add to that the fact that her twitter handle is @okayslutty, makes him sound twice as dumb.
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· 5 years ago
now this here is a dilemma. if the kid turned down the scholarship he's probably stupid, but how'd he get them in the first place then? maybe he really thinks the love will be lifelong, or...
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